So confused and feeling guilty.
My mother is 68, this summer after a hospitalization to run some tests, I realized that my brothers weren't willing to keep an eye on her and make sure she was taking care of herself, so I moved her to the state I live in, into my home. BIG MISTAKE. My mother is a very needy and dependent person and all that has gotten worse since my father died 4 years ago. She has some health issues that as long as she takes her meds are easily controlled. She is driving me crazy and with each day that passes I like her less and less. I love my mother but I haven't like her for a very long time, my childhood was not a good one due to my parents and their issues. I feel so resentful towards her, she is to young to be living with her children considering she had her own home and doesn't have any issues besides normal memory loss associate with aging. She doesn't want to take care of herself and when she was left alone in her house, stopped leaving the house, didn't eat right, gained a lot of weight and went a week or so without showers, I know she is depressed, her new doctor put her on zoloft this last week to try and treat the depression. She doesn't want to leave our house, I have tried to get her to go to the local senior center, volunteer, go to church all to no avail, she wants me to fill her emotional needs and I can't or maybe I just won't, because of my childhood. She has always depended on someone else for her happiness but the majority of it was on my father until he died. I don't know what to do, I don't want to live with her, she doesn't have anything other than her SS and over the last two years got herself into so much debt, that I am not sure how she was surviving while she lived alone.