Five sisters in disagreement of what to do with mom and driving us apart.
First the caregivers: five sisters ranging in age from 41 - 64. All currently have different things going on in their lives with work, their own families, divorce, etc. Mom lives about 30-40 minutes from most of us, exception of one sister who is 2 hours.
Mom has fallen about 6 times in the past 3 years. She's been in and out of rehab and currently lives at home. She needs a walker and someone next to her to get around, help in/out of bed, getting dressed, help on/off chairs and toilet. She can eat on her own. She has aide coverage Sun - Fri but dislikes anyone in her house so is usually not pleasant with any and finds any fault with them. The sisters split the weekends but now only 4 do because one is going through divorce and issues with custody. Two of us, with younger children ages 7- 17, feel Mom needs more care than we can provide and should be in a nursing home. Mom is supposedly deathly afraid of nursing homes despite not being in one for about 60 years when her own mom went in. Another sister agrees that weekend coverage is tough and would consider Assisted Living (but she needs more care than what they offer). The other two sisters are adamant about her staying in her home even though some rooms border hoarder status and weekend coverage is difficult and everyone always needs to switch around. It's tearing the sisters apart. I feel that my mom should at least consider letting us check these places out and have her look at the ones we like. She is very stubborn though. Her opposition to even consider other out of home options is coming at a cost to her daughter's relationships, some of whom are not speaking to each other already. When something does happen to her, I doubt any of us will be on speaking terms.