My sister is taking advantage of mom.
For the past 30 years my sister has lived with my mom and dad and has never helped with expenses. She's been in and out of jail and in trouble for a good part of that time. Surprisingly, she has held a job in the last 8 years at a halfway house counseling addicts. The problem is when my dad died a few months ago from ahlzeimers, I found out my sister, who had been appointed POA when my dad got sick, had been taking anywhere from $1000 to $2500 per month from their checking account using an ATM card she had acquired for herself. She had also manipulated my mom into signing credit card convenience checks totaling over $20,000 made out to my sister, her daughter and her husband. I found this out when my dad died and my mom said she was missing money. My mom has since changed her will and I am now the DPOA, thank goodness. Then, about 2 years before my dad died, my sister temporarily moved out of my mom's house and into her daughter and son-in-law's home, claiming her daughter needed help with her child. However, a week after my dad was buried, my sister, her daughter and husband and child moved back into my mom's house. I didn't know why, but suspected they had lost their home. I was right. My problem is they have lived with my mom for over 8 months now, do not help my mom or contribute to any of the household expenses. The 3 of them together make over $100,000 a year. My mom is now in the early stages of dementia and is afraid to ask them to help with anything. I have told my mom they should be paying rent and helping with household expenses. They also just bought new cars, all 3 of them. Then today I found out the husband is addicted to drugs and got fired from his job. I feel this is elder abuse in the worst way, but don't know what to do. I have contacted APS, but they have done nothing. Help!