Sister and I share Mom's care.
She doesn't understand why we shuttle her between our separate homes. We are determined to keep her "at home" for as long as possible. Her dementia prevents her from understanding that we take turns caring for her to avoid the inevitable. She is 94, can take care of toileting. She becomes agitated on our transfer days for a few hours. In my heart, I don't think there is an answer just wanted to put it out here