I'm signing off as caregiver to my grandma.

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My husband and I just decided last night that my grandma can no longer live with us. She is not fit to live with family. She has become extremely defiant- intentionally smearing her food on the walls to make me mad, threatening to tell people that we mistreat her, telling my kids they are going to be sorry, telling my uncle (her mentally retarded son) that he is going to die, saying that she's glad my mom (her daughter) died, sticking her filthy fingers in cookies my kids just baked to piss everyone off, and the list goes on. I cared for her in the best way I could and I did what I felt would have made my mom happy. Now I feel confident that my mother wouldn't want me and my family to endure this. Grandma is one twisted, self-absorbed, heartless woman. I'm done. My kids are so happy that she's leaving. We are all so happy and I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

I removed my uncles meds from her room because I wouldn't put it past her to overdose her son. I told my kids last night to lock their door when they went to sleep because I can't predict what Grandma is capable of. I can't wait to see this horrible woman leave my house!

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I am really sorry things were so difficult for you and it sounds best that she leaves your home, however, since you stated your grandmother has dementia I really hope you continue to love and care for her (out of your home). This is not her fault and can happen to anyone. Teaching your children about love, compassion, understanding dementia and other disabilities is a great thing. You could have dementia one day and although you would not want your kids to endure daily stress taking care of you, you would not want them to cut you out of your life for things you can't control. If not for her sake, for your children's....love your grandmother. She has done nothing purposely or viscously wrong. Dementia is a horrible horrible disease.
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Aisha, that is absolutely wonderful, and I am hoping it keeps going in a positive direction.
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Thank you everyone! I just got back from visiting her and she looks fabulous! Wow, she never looked so good in my care. She is in the right place and it shows. No doubt in my mind whatsoever that this was the right decision for everyone involved. She even has a new friend there!
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Wonderful news, so happy it's working out well for you and your family. Is your uncle doing OK with his mom now living somewhere else?
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Great news! So glad it is working out and you and your family can be happy.
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Aaawww, shucks! That is such great news! Grandma hasn't changed her mind. Both her and the staff are getting along nicely.
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Long may it last! Very good news, Aishamama.
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So good to hear Grandma is doing good. What a relief for you!
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Grandma is doing as well as she can be at the new place. The staff are very nice to her and so far nobody is complaining that Grandma isn't a good fit for their home. Yay!
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way to go. peace peace, blessed peace..
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