My siblings refuse to help our parents when they need care.
Mother recently experienced GI setbacks. Through many trips to too many DR's over many months of not finding anything-had a procedure to help. That turned into several trips in and out of hospital. Finally discoverd she has issuses with anxiety which could have been going on for years causing problems. I have found myself being the only one caring for her needs. I have 5 siblings-one out of town-one at a distance but still in state-three, minutes away. I am frustrated to learn how they will not help with the everyday for Mom. I have my own family and I must say it has been a learning experience to juggle the needs of so many in such a little bit of time. They respond to a few hospital stays, but after a few days disappeared. Mother loaned her vehicle to one sibling;when the time came to renew tags-sibling would not/"could not" bring me papers. Excuses and guilt are powerful for some, but I see it as purely pathetic! I have decided to seek support in this way. I must say it is strange to do this, but I feel alone. My husband has learned to really just listen and let me rest on his shoulders. One sibling will talk to me about Mother, but sibling is at a distance for travel. Two other siblings are hanging onto the past they have had with Mother and I believe are holding her at a distance out of spite. Again-pathetic. I have had difficulties with my parents too, but I can't justify throwing them under the bus. Our parents weren't perfect, but they did the best they could and I believe we can still care for them and grow up and get a handle on how to deal with our own feelings about the past. One sibling makes snide comments about me-I just ignore her. But I admit it takes effort to not react. My default would be a body slam-it wouldn'thelp things I know. Mentally I can get a way with it. Mother is taking steps to secure and protect herself-I remain neutral is my advice to her. They aren't interested in helping, so I say they should just shut their mouths. Thank you for reading