Siblings have now gone back after been here for a few days. (felt like years) We had a meeting and my sister was lucky I didnt punch her she wanted POA as shes more organised?? thankfully my brother stuck up for me and said if im going to look after her then I get POA jointly with my other brother as we live here.
My other brother who lives here really annoyed me considering he does nothing to help here or care for my mum AMAZING that noone cares or askes about mum and her care BUT they ALL come running when POA is mentioned. He didnt seem to want me to have it even though i am the one who has mums bankers card and pay her bills.
I really felt like screaming at them as they all do nothing towards her care. My sister thinks meeting her mates and spending little time with mum and avoiding her mess in the bathroom is caring??
Shes now decided to come home every six weeks AND DO WHAT?
I am now wondering if maybe mum is better in a NH so I dont have to deal with these assholes ever again?
I want to move away and mum comes with me as there is noone here to look after her and she cant be alone now.
If we move together and my mum pays half the rent then my sister is entitled to visit when she feels like it and the only way i can get a break is to leave my place?
I am thinking now that maybe I pay full rent then its my place and if sister visits then she cant stay in my home and can stay in a hotel nearby I dont want her around me anymore as she makes me so angry.
I am so angry at my sisters and brothers reaction to me and not a word of thanks for looking after THEIR mother?
the bottom line is i want to look after my mum but dont think I can do this if my siblings think they can visit and upset me everytime if im paying even half rent I dont think its fair that I move out everytime they visit?
Ive tried to talk to mum but shes in lala land and dosnt register what youre trying to say am really so frustrated I have chest pains since siblings left and my sister is coming home again in a months time.
She such a selfish b that I cant have her near me she flits in and out and does nothing except wash a few dishes.
I asked her to make sure mum eats a balanced meal she didnt bother and cooked my mum "mushrooms on toast" as she couldnt have been bothered to cook her a decent meal???????????
Im so angry and think maybe mum in a NH would be less stress than having my siblings forced on me when I dont want them around?
I am trying to get hold of a social worker and ask her for help. I think my sister needs a bloody good talking to.
Its so hard to be civil to her for mums sake when inside you want to scream at her.
My sister has lots of money and knows ive nothing she asked me why I didnt go off somewhere to have a break i just wanted to thump her go away with WHAT?? shes such a cow.
I am going to try and talk to mums lawyer and ask her to try and explain to mum what caring IS? but these lawyers only listen to their clients.
Sorry to rant but I think im on the verge of walking away from all of this my mum isnt the issue my siblings are.
Maybe if I rent in my name only then I have rights as to who visits but then mum will be angry.
Any advice would be appreciated! Im sitting here wondering how the hell I ended up here fighting this huge BATTLE on my own?