Sibling is abusive to elder.
My brother is emotionally abusing my 80 year old father; intimidating him and threatening him. My Dad wants me to travel there to take care of him but my brother won't allow it. My brother is paranoid, mentally ill, and thinks that me and my other brother are out to steal his inheritance. (We have no problem with not getting any inheritance because we are on benefits and the money would just go back to the government if we were left anything).
I have told my Dad to just do whatever my brother says to do, to try to keep the peace and keep the rages and threatening down to a minimum with my brother.
I just want my Dad to have peace; he knows he is dying and he doesn't want to abused by one of his children to death.
I have thought of driving down there to So Cal and just taking care of him, while keeping my apartment and I've thought of moving him in next to me, but he has a girlfriend he loves down there and who sees him every day. He said he needs me to take care of him and I want to SO MUCH but my abusive brother will come over and threaten us and emotionally wreck us.