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Jeanne, I'll bet that was nice:) I like to walk on the bridle trails adjacent to my neighborhood. Sometimes I look for treasures: a neat rock, lost jewelry--yes, I have found 1 each of 2 expensive pearl earrings. After the rains it's especially exciting. One of the things I like best about being an introvert, is that I am constantly amusing myself. I did not say "amaze." But I have wonderful talks with the universe and the feedback I get is brilliant. I am not really shy as an adult, but I love to be Alone, Dahling:) xoxo
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Thumper, last weekend I went on a book-discussion retreat, up in the north woods, on the Canadian border. I shared a cabin with two women I knew slightly. It was nice to get to know them a little better, but I wasn't particularly in the mood to "network" or socialize with strangers. All three of us skipped the "get acquainted" events. We went on a hike in the woods together, but didn't sign up for the organized hikes. In the cabin we talked about maybe playing cards or board games, but in fact what we all did is read! What a beautiful weekend for a bunch of introverts!

This would have been a perfect opportunity to meet some new people, if that is what I wanted to do. Instead I discovered some new authors, enjoyed discussing books, and getting to know a couple of people better over meals.

It is OK to be "shy" when it suits you. And it is OK to seek out other people with similar interests when that is what you want to do.
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I agree. Shy is not bad. Its better than being a loudmouth. If you want to make new friends, look for places that have like minded people like yourself. I am in a knitters group and it is so good. Look for people who need you. I also go to Celebrate Recovery and have met nice people there. Keep thinking and looking for people who are needy and maybe you can enhance their life to a degree.
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You see the length of my posts? These are nothing against my mouth. Which is why I am afraid to go out in public. At least here you can come to the end of my post, or you can click on that little red X up there.
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LOL!!! Cap, I start laughing when I see you've posted. I'm never sure if you are going to be nasty or thoughtful, but I enjoy you!!
Motorcycle Hugs! xo
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i wanna sell my house and build a cave. thats how sociable i am..
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Nothing wrong in being shy. I find shy people extremely kind and considerate. Shy people seem to comeout of their shell when they meet people who share mutual interests. I am somewhat shy, but when I take my dog to an allowed off leash area, I meet the most wonderful people. Mutual interest is our love for our fourlegged pets. Not only does it exercise and socialize my black lab, but it does the same for me. I also work parttime in retail as a cashier and have enjoyed interacting with both coworkers and customers. I also am involved in the American Legion in my hometown as I am a retired veteran. In otherwords, take your life skills and interests and apply them toward something that gives you a social outlet.
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I'm a real chatterbox, but I can be shy too. PamelaSue, I would love to hear you talk about yourself and your problems! But I would probably get my mouth going so fast you couldn't get a word in.
When you are afraid of being shy, it might help to have a list of questions to ask when you don't know what to talk about. "Can you believe this weather?" Stale, maybe, but it always works. "How about them RedSox?" Substitute the name of a local team. "How are you? How's your family?" "Is this a good brand of frozen peas?" Remember, other people are really shy, too, but almost everyone likes to talk about themselves, so if you just ask a question - any dumb question - they will start talking and you can just say "Really? Cool! You don't say!" Everyone will love to talk to you, and think that you are so smart and nice.
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Oh shoot, it's still there. I am sooo embarrassed. I reported it and hoped that moderators would make it disappear. I feel like I took off my clothes. O.O

I guess I'll leave it. There might be people here who understand that.

Thank you sharynmarie! You have made this thread easier for me. I do try very hard to be upbeat. Have you ever read a biography of Abe Lincoln? His life was not easy and he suffered chronic deep depressions. He and his wife lost two sons before his assassination. My favorite quote was one of his and I try to live by it.

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.
Abraham Lincoln
16th president of US (1809 - 1865)

My second favorite quote:

Happiness is a form of courage.
Holbrook Jackson
31 December 1874 – 16 June 1948
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PamelaSue~You are funny, Lol!! I had to laugh at your post about talking to much about your self. I am shy too and I am bad in social situations and talk too much about myself. I think it is a way to try to connect to others. You come across very upbeat and positive, I like that!!
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