To visit or not to visit...I don't know anymore.
So my mom took a big step down the dementia road last Friday night. By morning I, her daughter, was now her good friend. After a walk she wanted to take a bus and the streetcar to go home...you get the picture. When I visited on Sunday it seemed like my presence there created more confusion for her. The CNA said she had a great morning. I visited a bit but she seemed depressed and when I went to go home she assumed she would be going with me since she was not in her home and I think I was familiar. We had a big problem with transitioning for me to go home and her to stay. I said goodbye and it seemed like she went back in with the CNA but then they came through the door again...my mom in the wheel chair saying she was going home with me. The CNA said she suddenly stood and nearly fell trying to get back to the door to go with me. She has the strength to do this new behavior of suddenly standing but can't maintain standing and will fall if someone isn't right there to hold her up.
I don't know what to do to make this easier for my mom. I would like to visit her but in a way that doesn't create more confusion for her. I usually just go along with where she is at...I'm fine with being her good friend and sometimes her daughter in her mind. She just started all these new behaviors of jumping up to go to an imaginary doctor's appointment or imaginary church (not on Sunday) or imaginary shopping trip appointment. All this jumping up is now making her back hurt worse, and I'm afraid we might have to add more pain med.
I don't know what to do.