A neighbor friend has short term memory issues, but no long term memory problems.
She is otherwise healthy and lives alone. Her sister lives in Arizona. She came here last year, with store bought fill in the blanks POA forms, had notary come to the house and sister was appointed POA. Friend thought that was the right thing to do as that was her only family. Friend wanted to have me help her daily as she knows she does need some help. Sister hired someone else who was $5 an hour cheaper even though neighbor doesn't want other girl. In October, sister came back here and tried to forceably move her to Arizona even though she clearly wants to stay here in her own home. Cops came and told sister if she takes her that it's kidnapping. Neighbor gets none of her bank statements and sister took all the other important papers with her. The other caregiver got hit by a car and can't come back. Neighbor has asked me to help her remove the sister as POA and she wants to appoint me. In the meantime I have been helping her out again daily. The sisters daughter called me threatening me with legal action if neighbor writes any checks to pay me.
My main question is, does my neighbor have any right to choose who cares for her or are all her rights taken away and sister who is POA has the only rights to make decisions even though neighbor has clearly stated many times her wishes to remain here until she dies. Does the sister have the right to freely spend my friends money on whatever she wants, even if it has nothing to do with taking care of my neighbor? Doesn't the POA go into effect only after friend is incompetent or incapacitated? If I do go ahead and have her appoint me as POA through a lawyer, can it be done so that the sister cannot just come here again and draw up another one like she did before to reappoint herself? The sisters have never been close. Sister is only interested in her money now instead of waiting for her to pass and her family inherits everything. Of course, if I am appointed POA, I will insist on it being done to protect her from even me so I can't frivolously spend her money. And when she does pass, I would make sure the family gets what's left.
Neighbor is afraid sister will spend everything now (there's not really a lot of money at stake) and sell her condo to force her to move to Arizona.
I almost feel like turning my back on my friend because I don't need the aggravation but I cant