It's so frustrating!
I was raised by my grandparents. My Gran died in 2001 when I was 17. My grandpa had a heart attack in January 2005 and quadruple heart bypass in February 2005. He didn't want the surgery and he still doesn't care about much of anything. He misses my Gran and because she isn't here, he just doesn't care. He has refused to go to the doctor for a year. This means he hasn't been on any of his medications. He knows what he is doing. I don't know what to do anymore. I have a four year old and I'm married and I'm in college. My husband is only home on the weekends so during the week I have no help with anything. We all live together. My grandpa refuses to help with anything or even to clean up after himself (he won't put his plate in the sink, etc), won't wash himself or even change his clothes. Again, he knows what he's doing. He just says "You worry about you and your little brat. I'll do as I damn well please". What I find most frustrating, is the way he is with food and drinks. We buy double of everything and have the fridge separated so that he has one side and we have one side. This was his idea. Well, he guzzles his milk (a gallon every two days), and then drinks ours. Or he'll do as he did this weekend. I bought two gallons of milk (one for him and one for us) and put them in the fridge before we went to bed. Well, he opened his milk and ours. When we woke up in the morning he had drank half a gallon of his milk and half gallon of our milk. Yesterday, he drank an entire gallon of milk and then this morning has drank half a gallon of the chocolate milk I just bought for my son. If we buy pop, he'll drink a 12 pack in two days. We've been keeping it in our room and have been having to drink it warm because he'll take it if we put it in the fridge. He comes in our room when we aren't home and snoops for my son's candy and snacks. He ate an entire jar of Nutella (that had not been opened) that was in our room and then just left the empty jar on the dresser. When I ask him to stay out of our bread, milk, lunch-meat, etc (we buy the same stuff for him) he starts throwing a fit and then lies about it. I just don't know what to do or how to get him to stop. We don't get into his things and I don't understand why he thinks it's okay to get into ours. I'm tired of not being able to make my son a sandwich because my grandpa ate all the bread (again, he eats his and then eats ours) or the bologna. I'm sick of going to the store every other day. I don't have the time or the patience for it anymore. I just don't know how to handle his behavior. I know it sounds stupid and pathetic, but it's really frustrating and it's beginning to cause problems between my husband and I (that is another story in itself!). Any ideas?