My father got shingles in July and it's now early October. It has been debilitating for him and I'm worried that he's not going to last much longer.
The doctors have tried so many different drugs trying to get the pain under control, but nothing seems to work. He isn't eating a lot and he's definitely not getting enough fluids even though we try to get him to drink Gator Aid regularly because his sodium levels have been so low.
He has fallen a number of times and three times he's been taken to the ER because of it. Each time we find out his sodium levels were extremely low and he was dehydrated, but I cannot stand over him and make sure he keeps getting enough fluids.
He's 88 and my mother is 93, and we are very fortunate to have them in a wonderful assisted living facility. My mother, who has dementia, is flourishing, while my dad seems to be getting worse. I feel so sorry for him and it's very difficult to see him suffering and not be able to help.
Also, I don't want to keep either of my parents going when their quality of life is no longer good. I don't want that for myself. If my dad can get better and enjoy life again, that would be wonderful, but if he can't than I pray for an end to his misery.
I'm hoping someone can tell me their experience with this sort of thing. This is such a difficult time for everyone and I hate the hills and valleys, although I know that's part of the process.