She's threatening to 'sign herself out' of NH.
MIL went from re-hab to long-term care after not making any progress after a recent heart attack. She has many other issues including dementia, possible AZ, hydrocephalus and serious mobility and transfer issues and general self-care deficit. For weeks she has begged and pleaded to go home and now is just mad at everyone and everytime we visit, when she talks to us at all, she has it all planned in her head to 'just leave this place'. She may be able to talk a live-in boyfriend to sign her out AMA as she's very manipulative.
She has refused any in-home hired help in the past (after several falls and two broken bones) and her mindset hasn't changed - according to her, they robbed her of money and jewelry, smoked in her house and didn't feed her (all untrue, of course). She says just her and the boyfriend can 'get by'. Unfortunately the boyfriend is 89 and sickly himself, unable to help her at all physically.
Is there any recourse at this point? She's on an anti-depressant and anti-anxiety meds, but her mood swings are still awful - I'm not sure where her personality ends and where the dementia begins as she's always been very uncooperative and easily agitated. Add extrememly combative to the list now. Her long-time doc tells her she's not safe to go home, but she has stopped listening to him or will smile and nod her head and then go do what she pleases.
What are others' experience with this? I don't know that this doc (a GP) would agree with a guardianship and she absolutely refuses a different or additional doctor. Help!