Mom won't go to the doctor until she absolutely has to. I feel alone, scared and, most of all, helpless.
Hi there. Quick story...My sweet mom is 75. In the last year, she has had sudden headaches. She has now had two MRI's, including one last week, that came back fine.
She seems fine. And is fine. And then, bam, suddenly she will get a splitting headache, can't move without wanting to vomit, can't eat or drink. She has spent the entire day sitting in a chair with the lights out. (This is not like her, she's an active, busy woman).
My internet research keeps showing migraines as a possible cause. I know they can be wicked.
But my frustration is that she won't go back to the doctor at all. My family are the type that you just suck it up/man on. Which is quite scary when someone is 75.
I've begged, I'm pleaded, I'm trying to reason. She just won't go. She shrugs it off to a million different things. My dad is well meaning but...well, he just doesn't know what to do either so does nothing. We are both standing around doing nothing and I'm slowly losing my mind to all this nothingness.
Maybe it seems silly but I don't really have a question for you. I just am asking for support, any kind of support. I feel so alone. I adore my mother, she is a wonderful woman that I admire tremendously.
Hopefully this is migraines and nothing more serious.
But if it is more serious...how do I live with the guilt of not doing more.
I mean, DO I do more?
It's funny how something like this happens and suddenly you really don't care about
much of anything. Little petty things, traffic, thankless job, wrinkles, who cares about any of it.
I just want to do the right thing and don't even know what that is.
Please, any support you can give, would mean more than I can say right now. Thank you.