Sick parent refusing food and treatment in the nursing home.
My mother in law is in a nursing home in another state. She has MS and is wheelchair-bound (and has been for quite some time), but until recently had been in otherwise decent health. Over the past couple of years, she has had a series of UTI infections that have required treatment.
Most recently, she's had a UTI for several months (!!). At this point, she needs hospitalization and a blood transfusion. The UTI is presenting cognitive symptoms and she's a bit mentally mixed up. She was never a particularly religious person, but she's started telling us to just "pray for her."
She's been refusing to go to the hospital and refusing all treatment, and has refused to eat for the last three days. Her home won't give her treatment or food without her consent, and we're pretty far away. We've tried reasoning with her, but it doesn't seem to be working.
What do we do? Should we try to pursue legal guardianship (and if we do, do we need to get a lawyer in her state or ours)? Is there anything more we could do if we drop everything and fly out there? Any suggestions on reasoning to use to try to talk her into going to the hospital like she should?
Links/resources/advice all very much appreciated.