Well the nurse gave mom 5 more days...It's agonizing.

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The nurse came yesterday..put a foley cath in mom since she kept thinking she needs to potty. I was worried mom is so weak. She needs to rest so this will help with her being able to rest completely. The nurse came and assessed mom she says it will be just be a matter of days..one week.
Mom got up last night actually stood up for the first time in a month..said she needs to go. "I said where mom?" and she starts picking up the bedding as to take it with her. " they are waiting for me and I'm going with them" I tell her "mom, lets rest first." She says to me..."are you coming too?" I said "sure, mom but first we rest, they will come back in the morning."
I guess the nurse said this is common too..they will have a surge of energy. I pray for peace. I hope this is over soon.

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Prayers for peace and comfort for both you and your Mom.

A friend's husband kept trying to pack because he saw his parents at the door waiting for him. They had passed several years ago and he talked to them nightly the last couple of weeks. He said his Mama was singing lullabies to him to help him rest at night. She said it was comforting because her husband was peaceful and eager to go with his parents.

We'll be thinking about you.
My dad had the same type of "visions". 4 days before he died, he was trying to get up. When I asked where he was going, he said Jess (his friend who had died several years ago) said they have to get in line, they have to be fourth in line. I told him since it was hard for him to stand, I would wait in line for him until they got to the front. He also kept saying he needed to go home. I would try to reorient him and tell him that we were home but he kept saying no this is not the home, I need to get going. Shortly before he lost consciousness the day he died, he started saying "mom, mom, mom". So I asked if he could see his mom and he said she was about 5 feet away. I asked him if anyone else was with her and he said not right now. I asked if she had a smile on her face and told him she was probably really glad to see him again after all these years, that he should go give her a hug. It really was an amazing experience. Hospice told me that it was not at all unusual and called his agitation "terminal agitation" - knowing he had somewhere to go but didn't know where or how to prepare for it. He had had hallucinations at other times when his oxygen levels would get low but this was very different because it was always with people who had already passed and were very important in his life. Good luck ~ Kuli
Thank you all..it's so comforting knowing these are all part of the process. I am so glad I didn't give up on her. My mom has been so peacefully sleeping and I am sure she is having all sorts or visions because she smiles a lot. I'm sure there are many up in heaven with open arms ready to receive her. I feel blessed already.
What an incredible Lady you are! God Bless you and your Mom. May the Lord, God the Father, and the Holy Spirit Comfort you and your Mom. I ask this in Jesus's name. Amen.
Oh my, this is so sad and sweet. Blessings to you, msdaizy and your Mom. May she find peace and joy and happiness with her passed loved ones and may you find peace and joy and happiness with your loved ones here on Earth. Keeping you both in my prayers.
My heart goes out to you. As you know my mom passed away January 1st. Her funeral is this Sunday. I know it is going to be very hard for me because I miss her so much. May your "Mary" soon enjoy the peace mine has. Stay strong. I know exactly what you are going through.
Yes...Nanieine it seems our Marys will be seeing each other soon. It's been a very tough week and but i'm okay. Mom is in Respite at the Hospice House, which I can only believe was Gods plan all along because it was scheduled over a month ago. The nurses are so loving and caring...they jump at every wimper or scrunched brow. She has been so peaceful. She wakes up a little and grabbed my hand tonight as I kissed her cheek and I told her to give my dad a kiss for me in heaven. She saw me crying a little and tried to say something out of concern, but her throat is so dry. I smiled and said.."Mom it's okay..I'll be okay..and you go when you need to go." I saw how she relaxed and went back to sleep. I think it will be soon. And I am ready. I have so much peace in my heart now. Blessings to all of you.
((((((((hugs)))))))) and prayers for a peaceful passing and for peace, and comfort for the family.. That is what we told our son - If you need to go, it is OK. He went the next day.
God be with your mother and you, msdaizy. I believe you'll see your mother again some day and she will have a body that doesn't hurt and a mind that never forgets. You were so lucky to have each other here. {{{{You are a wonderful daughter.}}}}
Msdaizy: Today was mom's funeral, and to see the outpouring of love for her was so comforting. Whatever I may have gone through as her caregiver was all worth it. The only regrets I have are sometimes feeling frusterated because my sister never pitched in. But, as I sat there and looked at my 6 nieces and nephews and their 6 spouses, and saw my sisters 9 grandchildren (who just passed me by because none of them knew me....they never came to see mom), I thought what a sad thing.....for them, not mom! They were the ones who missed out on having the most wonderful, funny, witty grandmother and greatgrandmother. Then, I glanced at my daughter, who was so close to my mom, and my 3 great grandchildren along with my son in law. They were the winners. The love and memories they have will last a life time. They were the ones who brought the greatest sense of pleasure. She was so proud of them, and as she waited to fall asleep her very last day, I told her how very proud I was of her. She will be forever in my heart and mind. I know I'll have to keep up with this site, because I know I will find strength and encouragement from all of you who are going through or have gone through the very same thing. Hang in the Mzdaizy. I can say I know exactly what you are going through. When your mom does fall asleep, I can assure you, you will feel as I do: No Regrets! and so proud of your mom, who put up a fight and won...she won your love forever. Hugs, Elaine

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