So glad I found this site... makes me feel quite so not alone.
I'm an only child, my dad passed in 2004 and I moved my 91-year-old mom in last January. She was SUCH an independent woman... she lived in her own home and even stoked her coal stove twice/day. Then she spent 3 months in hospitals/rehab and now she just treats me like I'm her waitress/nursemaid/slave.
She has turned LAZY!! And I realize that at 91, that's her absolute right. But I want my life back... and I really didn't even have much of a life! But I want to be able to visit MY daughters and grand-kids without making it such a complex production. I want to be able to get a job outside the home. I want to be able to run 3 blocks to the corner store or just walk my dog without having to check in. I DON'T want to be treated like I was when I was 15, which I am being treated like.
I will NEVER impose this on my children. Put me in a home and come visit me on holidays. .I'll be good.