Oh God..My selfish impossible parents...
Here we go again. My dad was finally placed in a very good and beautiful care facility. My mother is STILL at home. When my dad was placed only 3 weeks ago he liked his roommate and the food and the staff. I received a call the very next day that a bed was available for my mom to be with dad. Glory Be.. An end to this madness at last. Not so fast !!! It was not meant to be. My dad in his infinite wisdom decided that he didn't want mom there with him and she was fine being at
home by herself. I called the care home and sure enough it was true. I could just choke my dad for being such a selfish jerk or is it his shot at freedom? Either way she now goes to the bottom of the list for placement. Thanks Dad.... She has been wanting to see him for about 5 months. (He has been in hospital)
I managed to find a way to get her to the care home to see dad at a whopping $300.00 for special care transport.
When we arrived for our visit the staff thought mom was about to be a new resident. Nope... She's just visiting. To bad. She should be there. It took a stretcher van and me totting her wheel chair in my car. Dad was surprised to see her. She tried to hold his hand but he didn't bother taking hers. We stayed for about 3 hours then the transport people came to get her to take her home.
Now my dad has decided he doesn't like to food or the staff or anything about his new surroundings. I wanted to have them put on the list for a care home near where I am but NO..... They don't like it here, but have NEVER been here. My mother will not leave there home because she won't let me take her dog and care for him. She is just impossible to try and get through to about her safety and being in that house by herself. She told me this morning that she WILL NOT leave the house and her little dog. She will be turning 95 in 2 days. I have had to upgrade my auto insurance due to travelling so much to attend to their constant needs. She doesn't give a damn about me or travelling, working full time and trying to burn the candle at both ends.
She thinks it should be NO problem to drive 2 plus hours in both directions or juggle things to accommodate them when they won't even consider accommodating me.
In her words... "I did it for my parents when I was young." I'm now almost 60". BUT she didn't drive or work full time or live 2 plus hours away. Now she thinks I should spend another $300.00 bucks to get her to an eye doctor which will require another $300.00 bucks for the optician to recheck her eyes. I told her that the money that will be spent on all these return trips would pay for her new glasses. It is all my fault she hasn't been taken to the eye doctor a long time ago. She needs to be in a facility that would allow me to do all these tasks that NEVER end.
Ah.. Thanks for listening. Ferris 1 are you out there?