Remind me (and yourself) that you can set limits.
I keep reading here about elderly parents who demand endlessly from adult children because, "you owe me". Even worse are other people who point out that your parents cared for you. It shouldn't take a PhD to see the difference. I have worked hard to set limits. After 17 years of grueling caregiving, I placed my then 92 yr old mother in Assisted Living. Our relationship improved, but I have remained wary. Now A year later, she is in the hospital, mad as heck and giving me the business. She wants me to take her to my home. No way!!!! She pointed out that I gave her grief as a teen so now she is entitled. Goodness. I misbehaved for two years as a teen when she was 45. She's been misbehaving on my watch for 18 years now and I'm 63. Still she's good at pushing buttons and I left the hospital in tears.