I am one of three children; the other two siblings have moved away (I suspect to avoid having to help me take care of my mother). Since I'm single they said I should be the one to move in, so I did. I'm 50 years old. I don't blame them for moving away--let's just say we had a dysfunctional relationship with her. She never showed that she cared for us and basically ignored us our entire lives. She never had any friends, which we thought was odd back then (but now know why--she is not friendly at all). But that is another story. Now she can't live alone. I've been here a while and she constantly is asking me why I am here and is convinced she needs no help. She was diagnosed with dementia. I don't think I hate her (though my siblings say they do) but I don't really like her either. She is negative, crabby, and calls me names under her breath. I know its probably the dementia, though she has always kind of been like this to a lesser degree. I guess I have been feeling very resentful for having to be here. I know I could make her go to a nursing home, but I know there would be a lot of kicking and screaming on her part; would refuse. I suggested it once and she said there is no way she needs to do that and how dare I even suggest it. Even though I know she doesn't care about me, I still wouldn't want her to have to go to a nursing home, at least not yet. Things are actually not that bad right now - have my own room and keep to myself mostly--go out and check on her, make sure she eats, make sure she didn't leave the oven on, etc. I telecommute so don't have to leave her alone for 8 hours. She will repeatedly knock on my door and then forgets what she wanted, which affects my work a bit, but nothing I cannot handle. I guess my question is....I know dementia doesn't get better but does it ever stay stable? I don't think I can handle this if she starts needing hands-on care such as being incontinent or needing help bathing. I know she would not let me do those things, which is actually a good thing because I would not want to do them. We do not have a typical mother-daughter relationship. I have never ever called her "mom" or "mother". She never called me by my name--She just says, "hey you." And always has, even as a kid. Anyway, I guess I'm just looking for reassurance that she could possibly stay just like this or will she most definitely decline? If we had a great relationship and she was the kind of mom anyone would love to have, I'd do anything....but alas that is not how things are for me.....I would not be able to do any diaper changing, getting up all night if she starts waking all the time (now she sleeps 12 hours a night, a blessing actually), or needs help bathing. Has anyone's parent had dementia that was as I describe my mom to be now, or do they always progress to incontinence and worse?