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After many months of fighting so hard, my 90 year old father finally passed on Saturday.
I say finally because he didn't ask for Alzheimer's to move into his life and destroy it. I say finally because I myself now will get some relief, if you have have spent untold amounts of time over the years seeing your father's mind and body be ravaged by what I truly believe is the most devastating disease on earth, you understand.
Thru all of this, God allowed me to say many things to my dad that I never had the opportunity to say.
I offer those of you serving someone with ALZ this, love them while they are here, try to be patient with them, remember they are scared to. Remember thru your frustration that they are frustrated to. Remember they don't understand any more than you do. Give them support, love them, hold their hand, whisper in their ear.
They will pass on to be with the Lord, and will no longer be in pain, will no longer need to fight this horrible disease and you will get some well deserved relief, when it comes, don't feel guilty, don't feel sad, they are much better off with our Lord. I feel relief, I feel proud to have been able to help the man who gave so much for me in his time of need. I am physically and mentally exhausted, but I am at peace, I shed tears often, but know where he is he is better.

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I'm so sorry for your loss Crazy8, but I it seems that your father is now at rest. Your words are so touching. It's clear how much you loved your dad and what good care you provided him. Great advice above. You should fee proud. Please get the rest you need. God bless you.

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