Being a new caregiver I did not realize how much this was all affecting me and my wife. My dad moved in in May after my mom died a year ago. It is been OK but I'm exhausted! I took my dad on an 8 day fishing trip across the county as a possibly last big trip and to help him ease into the transition living with us. That was very tiring for me (not much of a vacation). When I got back leaving my wife for 8 days wasn't the best idea (it was a weak moment when mom died that I planned the trip). Any how, short fuses and lack of romance has made it a challenge at home. So I planned a night away. Our daughter came home for the weekend with her husband to keep and eye on our dog (wink wink nudge nudge). They kept dad busy with a few things. Anyhow we took off with no plan to one of our favorite areas to take off to that is close by. I had to get a hotel, lots were booked and plenty with very high room rates. Trying to be fiscally responsible I looked around for something nice but not crazy. Long story short we got a room at a nice hotel, not a cheap rate but I bit the bullet. It was tense as the sense of no service was in the air and I was a bit testy. To add to that the "suite" they gave us was of all things (they did not tell us) handicap! Not that I am opposed to it but A. they did not inform us and B. It looked like a hospital bathroom! I was trying to escape all of that! Low and behold it took some of the romance away for a little while. I vented to the staff (in a professional way). We ended up with a nice time and they did take about 30% off the bill so it made me feel a little better about dropping major coin for 12 hours. Anyway we had a nice time, dinner, relaxing and a nice drive home to a house my daughter cleaned top to bottom (didn't need it but very nice)! I did not realize how relaxed I was last night and this morning. It was majorly over due. My kids are great! We all needed some time in our own corners for a while. Next trip is being planned even if it is a night away! Way over due! I read the posts about getting away, it is so needed! Looks like I will be getting more hotel points this year. Next time I just book the suite, plan the real nice dinner and not wince about how much it costs , so much cheaper than an attorney (insert canned laughter).