I'm quiting my job to care for my mother.

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I believe the time has come where I will have to quit my job in order to care for my mom. I no longer have help to care for her. Im a mother of 3 and can not financially afford to quit my job. She was in a nursing home before coming to live we me but she was neglected and i refuse to let her go back to one. Is there any financial help for caregivers?

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Deli, please consider what this move will do to your 3 kids. Yes, you only have one mom, but you are responsible for 3 kids above all others. If their dad is involved in their lives, does he know what you're planning? Are you sure this is a rational move for your family? I admire you for loving your mother and your concern for her safety,but please realize that what you are about to do will affect the safety of your kids.
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Crowemagnum has a point. Your life will become very different if you take your mom in. Your children's lives will change. You will have no life! Think very carefully before you make your final decision. You have others to consider! Talk to your local elder services and see if they can help you find a place for your mom. None of us can be happy about NH care, but it is better than burdening yourself and your children for who knows how long. Sorry to sound so negative, but I quit my job to care for Mom 2+ years ago and am still at it. Mom has long term care insurance to pay for help. Merry is wonderful and just started working 35 hours a week to help me out, but there are 168 hours in a week and one just rolls into another, nonstop. Please make sure you are willing to sacrifice everything to do this!
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Noooo don't quit your job. My wife and I have and we also have 3 kids to take care of. Depending on the state you live in there is absolutely no help for the caregiver. I know how you feel trust me, I care for both my mom and dad and they refuse to go to a nursing home. Our life is now thier life and we have tried everything to get help. When it comes to caregivers there is not much help you can get. Having 3 kids and no medical,financial,and no income, it's devastating. Better off trying a diffrent nursing home
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Whoa that is hard. I can see both sides. Crowe is right that you have to look at the possible consequences of such a major decision and Contessa is right that her mother comes first in her life.
One shouldn't have to bankrupt oneself and end up in the streets but at the same time in the U>S we tend to put our jobs very high on list of what is important, we take little vacation, see who we are as related to our occupations etc. In other countries family comes first. Yet at the same time how can you take care of your family if you lose your sole means OF support?
I hope you are able to do what is best for both of you.
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What if any means does your mother have to help pay for her own care or is she totally dependant upon social security medicare or medicaid alone?

How old are your children?

How many hours a day or days did you have to leave your children alone?

Were they able to graduate from high school and go to college?

What transferable skills or education do you have that might fit into a job now done online?

What is your relationship with your children like and how do they view your martyrdom?

While it is commendable that you are taking good care of your mother, do you think she wanted you to sacrifince all that you have?

I gather you either live in a house that you own, rent or have an appartment. If you own your own home, how are you going to keep property tax and other things paid for without a job once you move in with your mother?

I'm sorry but I don't share your point of view and find such a decission in today's economy and housing market to be unwise, but you have made your own choices and I wish you well.
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I was fired from my job three years ago while on approved FMLA leave from my job. I was told to choose between my job and my Mother. I only have one Mother, and figurered I can always get another job. I have no regrets, as at that time, I was told my Mother was dying, and I am happy to say that three years later she is still alive! Had broker her hip and got the MRSA staph infection. Last year she fell and broke her pelvis, and two weeks ago, she fell and broke her right wrist. She also suffers from horrible Osteoporosis and has slight dementia. I am moving in with her in the next two months. Going back and forth from where I live and hour and a half away for periods of time from a few days to up to a few months has been very hard on my, and my cat, and my two kids. They are adults now, but it was very difficult. I have no income at all, so I had to cash in my retirement and because it was before I am retirement age, the penalties were about 60% of what I had earned in the last 27 years. So, here I sit, no job, no money, no retirement, and no social life. But I love my Mother and this is what I need to do now. Does anyone know of a legitimate job I can do at home while living with my Mom?
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In many states, Medicare and medicaid pay for in-home care (personal and attendant care) if it is medically necessary. The health care plan that President Obama signed has a provision for caring for parents in the home. Check with your local department of Human Services/social services and/or Agency of the Aging. They will be able to advise you if your mother qualifies for anything base on her need for ADL (assisted daily living) and income. I can tell you from first hand eperience that there will be no financial assistance for you. However, with three children (I do not have any), you may qualify for state aid. You should also seriously consider your ability to pay for your own health insurance and/or medical expenses. Depending on you state's policies, this can be a major problem if you become ill--full health care for all individuals do not go into effect until 2014.
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Quitting our jobs, well we all think of it but would our parents want us to? Mine sure wouldnt and neither would I ever want my kids to do that for me. Who was paying for the nursing home? Whoever was, can now pay for daycare instead maybe. Not only will you have no income but more bills....
#1 you will have to use your Heat and/or air conditioning daily which is very expensive!!
#2 You will have no money coming in at all
#3 You will be so stressed out it can make you volnerable to illness.
If Mom has no money apply for medicaid, you will get it and get 4 hours daily and probably 6-7 hours saturdays and sundays. If Mom has money, use it for her care. Daycare is a godsend! If Mom goes to a medical daycare and her husband was ever in he service, you can get the Aide and Attendant program funds , its a lot of paperwork but worth it. Good luck
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There is that. Once you give up your job you may not be able to get another one and you do not know how long your mother will need ongoing care.
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You quit your job from which you had income to take care of your mother now with no income, but how are you going to live and help her without either of you evidently having any money coming in. I don't know if you can draw unemployment for you quit and were not laid off. I don't know if you qualify for welfare nor do I know your age or anything else about you or your mother's situation. She might end up on Medicaid in a home and you just might end up homeless. I hope not but with today's economy and job shortage, it looks bleak to me.
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