Party people growing older.
My grandparents lived life big until about 10 years ago when my grandpa had some serious health problems. They are now in an assisted living place where they can still have a toddy and go outside to smoke. I feel like they are teenagers sometimes. They have to go outside to smoke and she is sneaking them into the bathroom. She puts vodka on the shopping list even though they get a shot each nightly after dinner. I take care of them both but my teens act better than they do. I had to tell her again today that if she didn't follow the rules they wouldn't let her smoke anymore. Then she was leaving. I was like where are you gonna go? It's so hard to not to act like her mother and ground her! They were drinking a lot and smoking 3-5 packs a day before moving in last year. It hasn't been an issue but a few times over this year but all at once its the biggest fight with me and the facility. I don't even know how to approach this situation....any suggestions.