Paid caregiver woes.
I have not seen this issue addressed. Does anyone who works full time and cares for their parent after work have caregivers who are difficult for one reason or another? The first one I had was chosen by my family, but I did not know her at all. She gave my mother great care; everyone things that is all that matters. She added enormously to my stress ; she was controlling, in my business, going behind my back to numerous family members, often about things that had nothing to do with my mother . She told lies. She rolled her eyes and smart mouthed if I asked her to do things differently. I always bent over backwards to please her-giving her time off often, rushing home from work so she could leave. Ultimately, she lied about a few things and managed to turn my family against me; we were a very close family. It has been many months, but hard to get over. Since then, a parade of caregivers from irresponsible to sickly to downright lazy have come through. The caregiving is intense ( Mom is 102), my job is crazy, and the caregivers just add to the stress. I'm grateful to have them, but wish I didn't have to.