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I just told my husband that your mom has Capri pants. His look was pricesless!

Sometimes capri pants are best with short folks. Im 5'3" if I stand up really straight. I'll need capris and not petites in a couple of years!
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Thanks Barb. Yeah..Capri pants..WTH?

And Becky, I don’t want to cast my fellow hillbillies in a bad light but ain’t much martini drinking going on down here......The state revenue comes from the George Dickel/ Jack Daniels guys....And other crap I don’t even want to get into.
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Windy; Your parents are safe and happy and mom has Capri pants!

It's all good. You have a good local plumber, yes?

Breathe. You've sure as heck got this!
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Having a wee bit a vodker & tonic after a long day. Drove in rain all day yesterday then this am pea soup fog thru Columbus....
Total white knuckle crap....

Got to the old home place about noon, turned water on, hot water heater, and turned up heat. All systems (such as they are) go....then went to AL to see folks.

They were in their room, mom very lethargic and not making much sense. Dad making no sense at all but not agitated. Mom gave me the total cold shoulder at first but at least she wasn’t weepy and talking about me dumping her in prison/when can I go home and so forth. She slowly started coming round but it’s clear her dementia is increasing rapidly.

A neighbor lady had visited them Friday. She had called and told me mom said she had no clothes, Dad had lost his watch, wallet, and glasses. So the first hour or so I’m trying to determine what’s fact and what is delusional. At the house I found 4 pairs of dads old glasses and a working watch and had brought thevwatch and a pair of glasses with me. Sure enough, no glasses, watch or wallet. He put the glasses and the watch on and was quite happy.

A search of drawers and closet....Hardly any of mom’s clothes left!? Found caregiver...Moms stuff is in the laundry and will be back tonight. Ok.....

Remaining mystery: who brought the new Capri pants (Really?) two pair, and 6 pack of new undies? No staff had any idea, nor did mom and Dad. Hmmmmmmm....

Mom continued to perk up, telling me stories about life in the joint, p theraphy, it’s really hard, their dinner table mate E, she’s very hard of hearing, had four sons etc. ok...Im liking this version of mom.

At dinner mom and E carried on like they were at Girl Scout camp. Moms a little better off mentally than E and I could tell she liked helping E out by loudly explaining to her what was going on, the menu and so on. E seemed delighted. She is a sweetie. 90 years old and deaf as a stone, but she and mom seem to be big buddies.

Then mom tells me how she liked these college boys who come by and play guitars and sing. She really enjoyed it.

My god....I so wish I could have gotten her in here 5 years ago.

Dad is very confused. Couldn’t figure out where I was staying. BUT I THOUGHT YOU LIVED IN MICHIGAN? Yes Dad, but I’m staying at your house. WHAT HOUSE? The one 5 miles from here. OH I TORE THAT OLD HOUSE DOWN YEARS AGO......So I left it there.

OMG it is so friggin hot in that place. I can do an hour and I have to go outside for some air. It’s beyond me how people do 12 hour shifts in these places.....

So I’m pleased that the folks seem to be getting with the program. Of course that could change tomorrow but I think we’ll get there. Now it’s going to be a crazy week of house-bank-realtor-car-DMV-
and dealing with a dying sump pump. If that baby goes....I don’t even want to think about it.

Thank all you guys for the nice words.
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Martini drivers are a source of county and state revenue in WV:)
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Probably go with the water today. Five hours to go yet. Even in Ohio and West Virginia I don’t think they allow you drive with a fresh martini going on.........
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Dearest Windy, drive safely, drink martinis and breathe. ;)
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Dearest Windy, drive safely, drink water and breathe.
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Thanks guys. I’ll be fine. I think. Might be a bit difficult dealing with mom. Really no way to comfort her at this point. But now it’s all just details and hanging tough. Nothing compared with the trauma of the last visit which was wrangling the both of them in the AL.

Bad news....My realtor tells me the market is bad there now. Kinda over saturated suburbia. Probably gonna take a huge hit financially. Oh well......Had they moved and sold 5 years ago we’d have caught the tale end of the boom in that area. But , OH NO...WE’RE JUST FINE HERE....YOUR DAD CAN BRING MY PILLS TO MY ROOM....

So here we are. Could be much worse. They saved a good bit of money but now we’re playing the WILL I OUTLIVE MY MONEY GAME......
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Ugh Buddy! Thinking good thoughts for you on your journey, I know it all seems overwhelming, but remember, one bite at a time! You can't get it all done in one trip, unless you hire a team once there, and that's not a bad idea! Take Care! Stace
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Oh windy. I am glad you are taking a break part way there. I hope the hostilities aren't too great when you see your mum. I went through the "I have no clothing" thing too. She had lots. You have much to do when you get there. I know it is a huge job. BTDT twice re furniture. Mother moved from a large 2 bedroom apartment to one room unit in an ALF, we disposed of the extra furniture, and stuff, then 6 months later she moved to a 2 bedroom unit again and refurnished. We had to do it all over again 3 years later. ((((((hugs)))))
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