Have 2 sisters and 2 brothers and nobody will help.
I'm so fed up with my family. They suck! My mother was near death in the care of my CNA brother - who abused my mother financial, emotionally, and physically when she was made to poop her pants, and lay in a bed behind closed doors with the TV as her friend. All monitored phone calls and never was she able to talk because they'd speak for her. She went from that situation to a rehab facility and then to my house.
Since being at our house for four weeks, my 95-year old mother has gone from not walking or being able to stand or to feed herself without spilling, to being able to stand, walk 9 feet with a walker and from a total 2 person assist to use the facilities to one assist and only to balance. She can feed herself now, engage in conversation, and is part of the world.
However, the sibs I have only want to visit and nobody wants to relieve us. We are up every 90 minutes bedpanning during the night and never are able to get away because mother can't be left alone at all. My husband should be working and he is not because he is helping me caregive and we're both feeling rather burned out and without a life. I have a job that requires 50-60 hours of my time every week and is a management position with no support underneath.
How do you get the unwilling sibs to do their part? They all call and tell me how hard their day is and how tired they are and how they have to sit in the hot tub for an hour before they can move because of their arthritis. Waaa, waa, waa, is how I feel right now.