No question--I just need to vent---or I will ruin Christmas for everyone.

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We got a semi-frantic call from our daughter yesterday about a friend of hers who is in the process of adopting a rescue puppy--the girl works in the vet's office where the puppy has been, being txed for Parvo virus. She needed somewhere for the puppy to stay for 4 days while she moves out of her mother's home. (Her Mom said, "no dogs in this house!") So the girl is searching for an apartment during the holidays. Now, I like dogs. We have OWNED 3 of them, over 39 years, but are currently w/o one as I am sick to death of the work involved with owning one. DH LOVES dogs, but did zero work at the "messy end" the pee, poop, sick visits to the vet, the final agonizing days as we lost our beloved Border Collie to cancer--he was MIA for all but the long, fun hikes and throwing a tennis ball. So, I am done with having a dog. And while I felt really bad for this girl, I was not feeling like we should house a dog we don't know, who doesn't know us, and whose owner had no idea of the puppy was even housebroken yet. I said no, but deferred to DH on ONE condition: he had to do EVERYTHING for this puppy. I have 20 people coming to dinner today. I shopped, wrapped and sent the gifts to our out of staters. I got gifts for his MOTHER who absolutely hates me and he took all the credit for "choosing" said thoughtful gifts. I do 99% of everything to ready us for the holidays---he ran to Walgreens last night to get me something, as per usual. This is normal, so I'm not upset about THAT. My own mother is very ill and I have been running up to check on her on a daily basis for the last week. She is so feeble and still very sick with some kind of GI problem--I begged her to let me take her to the ER last Sat and she cried and cried and said she would suffer anything but being in the hospital on Christmas---so I'm worried about her. After my family leaves this afternoon, I will have to go see mother and check on her again. So--my plate is VERY full. DH said "I really want to do this!" so he called the girl, who of course is ecstatic--and she's here an hour later with a rambunctious, NOT HOUSEBROKEN IN THE LEAST, puppy who is chewing everything in sight and has peed & pooped all over the house. DH was supposed to put her in her crate last night, but she whined, so he slept on the couch with her "by his side" (how sweet, huh?) and she wandered all night long and peed all over the basement, the family room--the ONLY place we have carpet. I got up this am and found hubby sound asleep on the couch, honking away, and the dog just chewing up some random paper she'd found. Hubby wakes up---just as I step into a very large, wet spot. I didn't say anything, grabbed some cleaner and paper towels (no the girl didn't leave us any "potty pads"!! and began to clean the spot. Only to find 3 more wet spots on the way to the garbage. Luckily she hasn't pooped yet--but it's only 9 am--day's young. (oh, and BTW? Dogs with Parvo have diarrhea. Delightful) Dh SAID he got up with her and let her out several times, but she doesn't have a clue what to do outside and it's below freezing here. He thinks he's some kind of amazing dog whisper or something, He said "I let her out, I told her to go potty". Needles to say, my house REEKS, I don't have time to clean the carpet (and it would ALL be wet then..before the family comes. I am FURIOUS with my hubby for not crating the puppy for the night---I don't even KNOW how many spots she hit. No responses needed, but I have to calm down before the troops arrive. DH knows I do NOT like Christmas, I get so overwhelmed and anxious, and all he says (as he is now soaking in a hot tub is "geez, take a Klonipin, would ya? Calm down!) I have indeed taken 2 Klonipin and I am artificially calm. I'm INSISTING the puppy be crated for the family party. I am also INSISTING he crate her the night or keep her in his bedroom with the door shut. Dh has been begging for us to get another dog---and this is tilting the scales towards "I do not think so!!" In the puppy's defense, she is cute as can be, it's not her fault. I am placing the blame square on DH who admitted that the owner told him the puppy wasn't housebroken very well--but he really, really wanted to house her. Well, I get new carpet next week. I guess his bonus will be well spent. Thanks for listening, if you did. Someday there will be humor in this, just, not today and not for a while. Merry Christmas to all!!

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Good news on both fronts Midkid.. Don't expect the biopsies will show anything. They like to snip at something while they are in there just to prove their expertise. I absolutely refuse to have any of those proceedures without anesthetic.One anesthesiologist said he'd never anethise me and he was head of anesthesiology. When another had to he warned me I would probably wake up intubated and would keep it in for a couple of days. That was right after he invited me to sign a DNR.
Poor hubby he must have his tail between his legs big time.
I hope mine does too. he's been nasty and impossible for a week because he doesn't feel well and today he was having a stress test because he was sure the stent they put in one of his cariac arteries was either blocked or had moved and was all set for heart surgery. Well everything was fine. However while he was gone I went into his bedroom to change towels and found poop all over the toilet and even on one wall. Well I went and got some gloves and cleaned up that mess and left a can of disinfecting wipes where he would see them. After that I found his bed cover in nasty stains so had to strip the bed and remake which for me is a horrendous job. It is an adjustible bed and the matress is so heavy I can't lift it with one hand to tuck the bedclothes in. It must have taken me an hour to get all that done and i used to be a fast bedmaker. Anyway when he got home he was suitably appreciative and asked if I had enough wood to see me through the night and even turned up the thermostat in case the fire went out
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Laughing at some of the comments here---
Dog went home yesterday afternoon and was back here by 7 pm...it had lice. The owner washed it, but the place it was to be living for a while has 2 dogs and, well, "dog" lice is super contagious--so the dog came back here for yet another night. This was beginning to be absolutely comedic.

My endoscopy went well, took some biopsies and all, so I really don't know much more than that my guts are inflamed to a degree....after the biopsy comes back, we'll make a plan of care. So, no cancer, no ulcers, most likely, stress related (Grrrrr) oh well.

The dog was taken home about noon. I felt instant relief. Sweet dog, but so destructive and I was more than a bit angry with DH. But it's over, he's apologized and even went so far as to say he needed to get back in to see his therapist as soon as he can. So, for what it was worth, this time, in this situation, he did "get" that he was totally in the wrong and being a real jerk. I guess that's progress. I'll take it.

No, there was never an option for us to keep this dog. Never, ever, ever. It's not the kind of dog we'd even want, but we did help someone out who really needed the help--and this pup is now 100% healthy and almost 100% housebroken. Also, she gained 5 lbs in the 5-6 days we had her.

Thanks to all of you for listening to me vent. This is so much healthier than being angry and then passive aggressive towards DH. This whole dog thing, on top of mother being very ill, and me not feeling tip top--just the cherry on the sundae. DH is pretty obtuse, but he finally "got it" when the puppy chewed up one of his favorite shoes. He wasn't watching it at all----after PROMISING he'd be 100% responsible...he just....can't.

And, the anesthesia lasted all day. I slept until 1 am. Felt good!
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Hey Midkid,
Even though they have anasthesia that wares off quickly, you can still feel lethargic for a couple of days afterwards. Hope that's the only reason you haven't posted.

I hope DH is waiting on you hand and foot, feeding you peeled grapes and fanning you with ostrich feathers!

Seriously, we're all concerned, so, whenever you can drop a text....

Today is Friday, hope the dog is gone. 🐶
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Midkid58–I hope your stomach problems are what mine turned out to be...nerves! And that encourages me to eat a better diet and relax (if I can) at mealtime. Take care of yourself!!!
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Midkid, so how did the endoscopy go?
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midkid - how are you?
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Dogs!!!! My DH is allergic to dogs and cats - violently! I had dogs growing up - outdoor dogs and loved my dogs, but it do NOT want a dog in the house. We live in a small house on a city lot - so decided NO dogs. My son loves dogs. My bi$chy MIL takes any decision we make and over rule it - so for my son's fourth birthday she brings a lab puppy - beautiful and cute and my son fell in love right away.

When she got ready to leave - i scooped up the dog and handed him to her and said that my son will really love seeing the dog when we visited her. Naturally a fight ensued but we held firm. She had to take the dog back to the pet store as she lives 1000 miles away and every time we visit (six years later) the relatives all comment on how cruel we were to poor son - he so wanted a dog. My DIL says "two adults full time work never home until evening - what is the poor dog to do all day? I'm allergic to dogs - what the FXXX were you thinking? and Who the hell brings a dog as a gift without checking first with the ones who will have to take care of it??"

Actually son sees in our way - cruel to the dog with no one home all day, cruel to daddy if he can't live and breath in his own house. Unfortunately at nine - he has been exposed to his grandma's manipulating ways.
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Countrymouse! I know the answer! I know the answer for Midkid!

"Don't be so bloody ridiculous!"

Thought that Midkid was so thoughtful to not want to ruin anyone's Christmas, so she posted here. What a softie!

Is the puppy up for grabs?
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I fell for this one, too, Midkid.

My exSO reeeeeeelllly wanted a dog. Please could we get a dog? Pleeeeeeze. It would help him lose weight and get more fresh air. He loved dogs. He'd always wanted a dog. He'd feed it and walk it and worm it and...

Five years later I have sole custody of the dog. I can't blame exSO because truth is I didn't believe him at the time.

My mother was rarely hard-hearted. But on the occasion when the kids and I stopped a Weimaraner running into the road during a visit to them and took it to my parents' house to report it lost, and my father fell instantly in love with this "wonderful animal, look at that head! What a beauty! If the police can't trace the owner can we - "

"Don't be so bloody ridiculous!" she snapped.

It's a cruel to be kind thing. Show any weakness and you're knee-deep before you know it. Sigh.

Between you and us... if the puppy does learn the rules... and all being well with your procedure God willing spit-spit-spit... [whisper] would you quite like to keep her?
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Sitting here nervously reading posts to make the time pass before I have to go to the hospital for the endoscopy. I am only scared of the IV (how silly) but I have teeny veins and a lot of nurses will poke me ten times to get a vein and I'm in tears by then . The actual process? The PROMISED me I'd be sound asleep. I hope! I've 3 w/o enough anesthesia and they were beyond horrible.

Dog is behaving better. She'll be totally housebroken by the time we eventually turn her over to the owner (and I have this sinking feeling it won't be today, as was re-negotiated by DH and the owner. I haven't even attempted to clean house since Christmas--dog has denuded the tree to the height she can reach, peed in EVERY room in the house...oh well.
Yeah, husbands can be something. Mine is walking a thin, thin line recently.
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