New to group as a 56 year old caregiver.
I am new to this group. my husband and I take care of his 55-year-old brother who is wheelchair-bound and has uncontrollable epilepsy along with mentally handicapped. We both work full-time. I have been told that when my husband's mother passed away The mother role transferred to me and I'm good with that. She took care of him all of her life before she passed and was the one to protect him now we have the privilege of protecting him. We try to live as normal lives as we can and we wouldn't have it any other way Others don't understand why we do this. And it can be very hard some days but we love him and could never put him in a nursing home. I read topics about missing out on social life but my husband and I have a date night every Saturday night that we both look forward to so we can talk without interference. I have never been a social person and reading other ones comments on needing to be social makes me wonder if I am missing something. Other family members have said they wondered where we went when we took on the caregiver role They just don't understand. We chose this and we cannot just leave at a moments notice to go to parties or get-togethers everything needs to be planned out. Just thought I would share