Dysfunctional family and caregiving obligation nightmare.
Hello. I am new here and need guidance and help. I am the only child of my mother and her brother my uncle never had children or married. Both are elderly and my mother is showing early dementia and my uncle has mental issues but is still high functioning. I have tried all my life to separate from my dysfunctional family and spent thousands of dollars in therapy attempting to recovery from my upbringing. Yet now I am being dragged back in because literally I am the only person who can take on the obligation of ensuring their care in old age. I have decided I will never live with them, but as you all know there's still plenty to do in supporting the failing elderly if they still want to live independently. Or in managing their affairs and ensuring they get proper care in assisted living or nursing home. I feel like I am being forced back into close relationship with the family I have worked to escape my entire life. If I abandon them though it will be completely dishonorable. I don't know how to deal with this without destroying myself or becoming someone that I can't face in the mirror. If I had a sibling who was willing to do this, I would gladly let them inherit every dime if they would take this from me - oh and there is no inheritance to speak of. Help!