I've been caring for my dad since January - lives alone, paranoid schizophrenic (good while on meds), takes 13 meds and has 4 inhalers, oxygen at night, can't drive. I'm now POA, do all his banking, pay bills, take him to all his dr appts. My younger brother visits every other week and will take our dad to the store. Dad has a kidney stone, scheduled for lithotripsy on July 8.
My mom was recently diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, had 2 rounds of chemo (tumor has shrunk a little over 50% thanks be to God!), and begins radiation July 8.
Mom wants me to be with her for her first radiation. I'm trying to get my dad's sister to take him for surgery but no response from her yet. Next I'll ask my younger brother. Doubt either of them will do it..."I can't. I have to work." Yeah, like I don't have to work. I'm working 3 part time jobs.
I have an older brother but he's 3 states away and isn't in the best shape financially to take off either. However, it would not surprise me in the least if he shows up that day. My stepdad has been taking mom to all her chemo appts and he's done great but he's not in good health either - heart condition and diabetic. Five days a week to radiation that is 30 minutes away for 5-6 weeks will wear on him I'm sure. It would a healthy person.
I started counseling a couple of weeks ago and that has helped. But, it ticks me off that my dad has family here and they have repeatedly told me, "I'll do all I can to help. Just let me know." Right. Liars. And I know that once he's gone, there will be Emmy winning performances soap-opera style about how great he was (that's an entirely different story) and much they loved him. Whatever. It's also sad that my brother, 3 states away, will do whatever he can to help, go into debt or whatever to help and the family here won't lift a finger.
I can't be everywhere at the same time and this isn't the first time this has happened. I really need help but doubt I'll get it.
Just needed to vent to people who understand.