I need my mom out of my house but she refuses to go and is tearing my family apart
My mother is 88 years old, on a slew of meds and a fall risk although her mind is sharp. She constantly talks about death and dying to me at every doctor's appointment but only when it's just us two. She tells my husband when I am not around that I am cheating on him and tells me that he is cheating on me when he's not around. I am at wits end and having dark thoughts on ending my life or even thinking how to leave my own family because she refuses to go into an assisted living apartment. I hate my home because of her and it shows. I can't bring myself to clean anything and I am ashamed. She's driven everyone from her family away years ago and I only have one friend left that even comes over to our home but she belittles them too. Not to their face but she will talk about them after they are gone. She'll play buddy to my husband and ask like his best friend and treat me like dirt. She always makes sure there's nobody around. My 26 year old daughter lives here too and will try to buddy up to her too but she won't have it. She too won't have anyone over. I feel like a prisoner in my own home. I've begged for God to just take my life and put me out of my misery. When I run an errand, I find myself dreading going back home or I'll go somewhere nobody is around and just scream and cry in my car. I refuse to go on meds because of this woman!! So I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to place her in an assisted living apartment. My husband and I are touring today, she refuses to go. I do have POA of healthcare and am in charge of her living will. They said it's helpful but they can't force her to move in there. I read another woman's post in entirety about having her mother evicted, which I have no problem doing but I'm hoping between the senior services visiting her and having her realize that since I am not accepting her rent anymore as of the 1st, her money will accumulate in her account and by July 1 she will be kicked off welfare because she'll have too much money in her account. I realize that she can very well withdraw it and just keep it in her room and show a low balance. She keeps saying this house is hers, which it is not. It belongs to my husband and myself, she's not on anything and we don't claim a senior exemption on the house for taxes either. My end all fear is she will continue to refuse to go, I will go through with the eviction and she will just sit with her stuff at the end of our driveway. She would be that stubborn! I'll provide more info as needed, I'm just so flustered and at the end of my rope. Oh, she has now called and cancelled her physical therapy appointments that were to strengthen her gait that the doctor ordered. OMG I need help.