I need help in moving my Dad to a retirement home & taking away his keys. We have talked about this for 6 months but he is against moving.
I have had many people tell me they moved their loved one in one day. Brought them to the new home and said this is what we are going to do. I am scared to do this b/c he is so against moving. He was diagnosed with post-concussion syndrome 5 years ago. This is a short term memory issue that has gotten worst in the last year. I know it is turning into dementia fast. He can’t remember 30 seconds ago...or vaguely. I’ll ask him not to go by the doctors, dentist, or wherever and he says ok but goes anyway; or not to call his CPA or doctor,or other businesses but does several times a day. He says does not remember telling me he would not go or call. At the end of a day I’ll call and ask where he went that day and he can’t tell me what he did. He will go in the bank or VA serveral times in an hour or two not remembering he was just there. He says he does remember but he had another question... of which he didn't -- it was the same questions each time. He might be able to tell me he went one place but he is guessing. He is in extremely good physical health. He has the reasoning skills of a toddler which scares me the most. He is getting more and more agitated quickly. I have many friends telling me I need to get him some where fast and I'm doing the right thing in moving him w/o his consent. Especially his doctor and close few friends. I'm his only living imediate family relative. He is 78 yrs old. I'm afraid he will get physical when I move him. He would just die if he understood the way he is behaving. I do have Power of Attorney.