I never realized the stress the caregiving puts on the person until now.
I am caring for my elderly mother in her home. I came to Massachusetts leaving my home in Virginia where I have been living for almost 30 years. I also have a brother who is diagnosed paranoid/schizophrenic who is now 49 years old. I am the only daughter with three brothers, one of whom passed away last year, one who lives in another state, and the mentally ill one who lives here in Massachusetts. Although he does not live here with me and our Mom, he lives close enough so that he is here every single day. Needless to say I am having severe stress issues as there is also a lot of history between me and my mother ~most of it bad. I have been here for 9 months and am ready to put her in a facility somewhere and go back to Virginia. I just need someone to talk to. Need support. My husband is in Virginia along with two of our grown children. I am 61 and have various health issues of my own, but am unable to take care of myself due to the needs of my mother. The stress is unreal.