Nasty hurtful Dad.
Hello as I am writing this I am asking myself, how much more can I take ? Am a 43 year old man who is married to my wonderfull wife for the past ten years and we have 4 great kids and we have our own hair salon.
The thing is my elderly mother & farther they live ten doors down from us, my mum had a massive stroke nearly 40 years ago it paralysed her down her left side and severely impaired her speech and now is wheel chair bound due to arthritis.
My dad has all ways looked after her and delt with all her needs and I respect him for that, but now in later life all this has become a lot harder for him to cope with, so I have all ways been more than happy to help and have sorted every thing from careers to getting a stair lift fitted in there house and dealing with social workers for him , also making sure the shopping is done and making doctors appointments and taking him to them.
When we make a hot dinner I take some round to there's, thinking it is a nice thing to do, he has never been a easy man to get along with ask my brother, my dad did his level best to push him away and succeeded they have not talked to each other for 27 years ! I did try to work things out with my brother but to no avail, I get accused of saying things that I haven't, and when I try to stand up to him about the lies am told to pissoff ! I have also been accused of not caring or taking time to speak to him or being there for him, no matter what I do or how I try to involve him in our family he just has a go at every one, one day it is our children the next the neighbours then the hospital staff or the optician, and the world and his dog.
How ever he has now started on my wife accusing us of only caring about money, we are in the middle of some legal stuff which my dad said he will help with the costs which I am paying back ASAP, but at what point did this give my dad a green light to treat us like the stuff you find on the bottom of your shoe! I am at my wits end with his nasty tongue he lies when he knows he goes to far and says things like " how can you be angry at a old man who can't remember what his said ! " I don't think I can carry on I have tried to reason with him but it falls on deaf ears, I just don't know how to cope any more.