Her unsatisfied "needs", her non- empathy, and narcissism makes her unbearable. We are the only siblings in the area and my husband is the youngest. Her presence fills most of our free time and discussions. We are both in counseling but she is the one who needs to address her issues. At 87 I know she never will. Even the people she eats with in the dining room are beginning to shun her. Setting boundaries sounds easy but let me tell you...I need help to cope.