My "whine moment today". What's yours?

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Brilliant, CW!

I know it must still feel like "what is WRONG with you?!" but what can you do but be pleased for her?
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The miracle continues, today mom reported that she had porridge for breakfast. And an egg. She also agreed she had orange juice when I asked. It's like something has hit the on switch that so mysteriously was turned off years ago. But the voice and body are rusty and worn from the years of disuse.
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Hi Myownlife, I don't know your story or why you have chosen to move your mother in with you - your profile says she has general age related decline? Since she sounds mostly capable perhaps a nice IL apartment in your neighbourhood would be a better compromise. Or if she did return to her house what kind of difficulties do you foresee?
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Hugs, CW.
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Cwillie
i hope you're sound asleep and glad to hear mom had an active day

when they have a good day, always makes me wonder how badly they feel the rest if the time
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So here's my whine of the day.... I'm sitting for hours in the living room working on the computer for work to catch up. It was easy work that I could do with the television on, so turned a good movie on Netflix and Mom enjoyed it, too.

Then she went out of the room to do a couple of errands and came back and we were watching more TV while I'm working.... and then, all of a sudden,
there she goes again trying to "pick a fight".

What is it now, Mom?! Well I've been trying to talk to you all day (it's 6pm by the way), so I said, well I've been here, what do you want to talk about? Well do you have work tomorrow? (UH, It's Monday, of course I have work!). Well could you drop me off at the grocery store tomorrow...... and there are papers in my wallet and purse I wanted to go over with you, etc., etc.

Mom, it's the end of the day, could you not have said something this morning? Well I was waiting till you finished .... and then things further deteriorated into, well I want to go back to my home. (it's the home 2 1/2 hrs away, that is sitting empty because she won't sell it, doesn't want to rent it, and I have told her repeatedly that she has no friends, no neighbors, no support system there and I have a full-time job that I cannot be driving over there when she would need something.
So, she goes off in a huff to her room, meanwhile, I'm stewing while still working trying my best to let it go, but chest tighter and tighter from anxiety. Lo and behold she comes out an hour or so later, all smiling and saying well, I voted (absentee), and lay the envelope on the table, and acting like nothing was wrong.

I can't take 10 more years of this... it's the same stirring up trouble like she did with dad, and I am so over it.
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OK this is weird - mom is alert and TALKING, not necessarily making sense but talking! PSW stopped me in the hall to tell me that she was "talking up a storm" and wanted her seat belt off. I get in her room and she's asking for her glasses (she quit wearing them years ago) because she needed them to drive the girl to school - I'm figuring seat belt = driving, makes sense, right? But who is going to school? "The girl. The nurse." Well, maybe they were talking about their kids going to school, who knows? She spoke randomly right until I came home after supper, she was even trying to find her utensils and drinks on the dinner table to eat when she normally barely moves at all. My sister will never believe me!
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Thanks Frazzled. Sis and I were talking about funeral plans and here she is bouncing back again, maybe a little lower and slower but bouncing none the less - I never would have believed my mom had anything left.
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CWillie, I'm glad your mom is doing a little better and was able to eat. Good that the antibiotic is working.
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Mom seems to be doing better, she still has a tight sounding cough but the horrible gurgling has gone - I'm starting to wonder if she hasn't caught something that is going around. Anyway the antibiotic seems to be working, she was able to eat most of her lunch today.
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