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Fake diamond necklace? Dang.

Seriously, Polar - is there a Dementia Friends scheme, or anything like that, in your area? Popping a discreet little badge on her coat lapel to help people be aware that she's not - how can I put it - quite herself might spare you an awful lot of blushes.
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My whine for today.

My mother is now a bonafide kleptomaniac,

She has to swipe or try to swipe something whenever we go to a store, from a candy bar, bag of chips, pack of gum, etc. And she does not eat ANY of them. Last week, she swiped a (fake) diamond necklace, and a sample perfume bottle. Ugh!!!!

I try to watch her like a hawk and put back what I find in her purse. Sometimes, she succeeds without me knowing/seeing. Then when we get home, she takes out whatever it is that she swiped then gloats that her son gave it to her.

I will have to insist she leaves her purse at home before going out. That will be another battle as she is literally attached to her purse.

My kids don't mind the candy bars and chips so much, they even suggest that I take her to the bank. Haha.
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How is MIL Katie?
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Ali and Mally, hope you feel better fast. I have wooden floors in our new home and have had to slow down, especially when wearing socks!
When my mom could not walk well anymore I began to notice the barriers for the disabled, stairs, steps, curbs everywhere. I do like the trend of walk in showers instead of bathtubs in new homes, but a friend that has only showers in her home misses a tub.
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I had to use crutches for a few months after breaking my ankle 20 some years ago and it gave me a real appreciation for how many barriers there are for the disabled and how weak and depleted even the most minor injury and surgery makes you feel - and I was still young and in my prime.
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Mally,
Can you make the floor less slippery?

Glad,
We have wind, the Santa Ana winds, kicking up dust still.

Ali,
One step at a time, you go girl!
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Speaking of which, my mom and my client are both almost non ambulatory now, since they've had quite a few falls each. Last week I slipped on the floor, threw a full cup of coffee to the winds, and landed on my knee. It's a little bruised below the knee, but if I bang a certain spot on the knee on anything (which of course, I have, several times), it's excruciating.... Now I know why they're so afraid to get up and down from chairs, bed, etc.; the thought of doing it again is really scary!
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Oh gosh, I didn't mean to imply I was throwing back a bottle of ibuprofen, haha, I meant that I'm taking the full dose of 400mg as often as allowed. Don't worry about me. I suppose I could've worded that differently but... I didn't think it would sound dangerous.

I'm much improved today and that's great. It's still a few days until I'll be able to walk up stairs in the normal way. I'm doing the old "step up-then-step up" method right now, where you do one foot on one stair then the other one on same stair. Ugh. It's so tedious but I'll live. And I'm TRYING to remind myself to be grateful I don't need to walk this slow and careful all the time, that it's temporary. It definitely makes me appreciate the movement/ambulation issues of others.
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I am soooo SICK of the wind!
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Ali, what do you mean "a bunch of Ibuprofen"? Take as directed. Do not exceed the stated dose. That way stomach ulcers lie.

You can get ibuprofen gels to apply direct to the sore place, you might be better off doing that.

I think perhaps you'd better get someone to check this isn't a ligament tear, too. If you look up online where the Achilles tendon attaches to the calf muscle, you'll be able to see whether it needs attention.
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Stayed in most of this week and on Thanksgiving. I could've driven to bro's house but I was scheduled to get back to work today. I didn't mind at all. I was recovering from an infection and it felt great to take it easy.

And then I tore a muscle in my calf this morning just from taking a step. That leg had been bothering me for a couple of weeks but I figured it would heal. I think this tear plus my back sprain 2 months ago means I have a deficiency again, something that used to bother me 10+ years ago and I would get sprain after sprain, mostly in my back.

So I'm taking magnesium, potassium (from bananas), electrolytes (coconut water), and a bunch of ibuprofen. I iced the leg today and am hopeful I can hobble into work tomorrow and it won't be too painful. I can sit behind the bar and do some station work instead of running around.

I feel like my body is a big disappointment sometimes. lol But this is something I can work on and I'm really hopeful that by adding supplements like MSM back into my routine, I won't get these muscle tears any more.
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She thinks she is getting out but they have her on a liquid diet and are slowly going to introduce soft foods....maybe turkey broth is all they will give her...I don't know if they will let her out today...she thinks so, and could become very crabby if they don't....

Everybody have a nice and peaceful Thanksgiving!
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Katie I think you are safe this year from MIL cooking the Thanksgiving dinner. Even if she does get out of the hospital I doubt she will be well enough to do it.
Anyway tell her the turkey DH purchased was a first cousin to Peas and Carrots and although it has been executed is entitled to a burial with full military honors in Arlington National Cemetary.
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Gee Katie, will MIL even be released for Thanksgiving? And could this be the thin edge of the wedge to getting her into a more supportive environment?
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Now I need to take my own advice! MIL admitted to hospital last night, bowel obstruction and UTI. She was insistent on cooking the entire Thanksgiving Dinner herself at 88. She always does. She says that is how it always is done, tradition. We bring things, offer to cook or cater the whole thing and pay for it, and she gets mad and won't hear of it! She is very stubborn and wants no changes in life whatsoever. Now we have to tell her it is ok not to cook this dinner...the World will go on, meteors won't destroy Earth and Martians won't attack. Now everything is in a tizzy as usual and hubby's newer car is having issues. So.... when does the fun retirement start?...harhar....
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Needalife, One thing I did learn to do when things are rough in life is to compartmentalize each day, just get through it best as possible and then put it in the past. Sometimes I have had to do this by taking it one hour at a time. Don't forget to do little things for yourself, cup of coffee, watch sunrise, etc. Little things add up in what I call the "me bank", and give energy to start a new day.
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Needalife

sorry you you caught in a spot

if I understand, you are taking care of hubby's gma?

Where are gma's children?
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Damn where to start..lol welp my charge is my dh gram and he sees no wrong in all she does smh. I have had to forbid her from sleeping with her dog cuz of the fall risk(she gets up n "lets the dog out") when all she does is let her out of her room to piss in the rest of the house cuz she forgets to take her to the sliding glass doors to do so. Now she has been drinking her dogs water tht she keeps in a bowl on her table (the dog is a spoiled asshole) at any rate i no longer let her feed the dog(she will eat dog food) nor sleep with the dog as above mentioned, so no water for gma and now ima asshole.she hss harped on me for days but i will not give no matter what im here to take care of her not appease her delirious fantasy she no longer understands tht im not the enemy but knows she can still depend on me. I have gotten on antidepressants cuz of the stress and yet my dh and his mom still dont understand. I no not what else to do i am at my wits end what would u ladies n gents do????
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Good to hear, Gershun,

Mine came in the mail yesterday. I have not started reading it yet.
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Magnum, I suffered from anorexia when I was 11/12. It wasn't spoken about as much as it is today and I was able to hide it for a long time before anyone noticed. It got to the point where I couldn't stand up without getting dizzy and would faint every time I got out of the shower so obviously people knew something was up.

I think I did it to get attention. My Mom was always at work it seemed and I was getting bullied, my brother's mental illness was coming to the forefront more and there was so much stress in my life. Why I chose to start starving myself, God only knows. I still battle with unhealthy eating habits to this day. I think it's like being an alcoholic. Even when you stop drinking you are still an alcoholic. I think it's like that with anorexia as well. I go through stages where I become addicted to exercising and overdo it and then have to stop for a while.

I haven't ordered that book yet Magnum but I'm going to go on a book site right now and see if I can find it.
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Grief over my dad's death has led to dealing with the pain of how mean my mother was after divorcing him for no reason other than her daddy's money and name wishing she had just left me with him. Their divorce hurt me so much that I went on a hunger strike that took sending me to Johns Hopkins to get me out of.
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Then, a group toast! Even though I don't do wine, I may feel like it!
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The winds are changing direction again, Send
we should be less smoky tomorrow
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Rest well in your own bed tonight, Veronica
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So sorry for everyone's troubles. I will not whine now unless it is truly whine worthy.

Veronica, Magnum, Send, CWillie, Katie, Madge, Countrymouse and anyone else I may have omitted.

(((((Big Hugs)))))
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Not one to disappoint, CWillie, the whines have been stepped up just for you!

The heavy, gray smoke has arrived from the several fires. Moving Tweety in the bedroom with the Hepa filter.

Just realized if we had to go somewhere because of the smoke, we would have to bring Tweety. Grateful my pet is not a horse. The L.A. Co. Animal Shelter is full, announced on social media.

I am not too scared. But when we last had to leave from the smoke, we did not realize how sick it was making us until later.

Ok here! No visible fires.

Anyone else......be safe.

Even if your issues are snow and freezing.
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Not that I need it, but it would have been fair if my dad had left my two step-siblings and I the same amount of his estate. For some reason, I ended up on the short end. I think this was my step-mother's influence who never liked me anyway and treated me like dirt for 35 years.
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And I was just saying the whines seemed pretty tame lately - sheesh, you guys definitely have something to whine about🤗🤗
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Time for a group hug!!!!
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Veronica,
Have you tried Liquid IV to rehydrate?
Avail at c o s t c o and other places.

I only heard about it second-hand.
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