My "whine moment today". What's yours?

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Came home and received a call from Hospice and since she has declined in 60 days they are releasing her....what a day..it has got almost comical.
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2tsnana, so sorry! Sending BIG hugs...
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My Whine Moment of the Day is : My mom has a UTI she has three more doses of antibiotics left. She has been meaner that a rattlesnake at everyone today was my turn !!! I am an only child I go see her everyday she has been in the Nursing Home for 1 year and 8 months. She is 85 has a ton of health issues broke her hip in March now she can no longer walk, etc.... Today I walked in her room and she was in a fit. Where had I been (was there 2 yesterday) How could I leave her there? it went on and on I argue with her can you believe that??? I finally went and got the charge nurse who does very well with her. I left and came back to work... Seriously, my feeling were hurt then I got pissed now I just wished it would end. I have been her caregiver in some form for 14 years..today I could have smothered with a pillow. I go everyday. I told her that when I am not there I am at work then I go home come back the next day go to work....blah blah blah... I am tired and right now just DONE !!! I realize that she cannot walk, her skin is just so thin she keeps bandages on her. They have to use a lift to take her to the bathroom...I hate it for her I really do. Her mind is failing and has failed at a very rapid rate since she broke her hip in March. I get it...she has always had a mean streak it had gotten better, but it is back now with a vengeance. I know the UTI could be the cause of some of it.. enough of that just needed to vent..........today was a major suck...
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Good for you freqflyer...and JeanetteB I will give your advice some serious thought. I prefer to first try a natural way to even out as I believe in giving holistics & natural ways a chance first. I have begun taking magnesium.
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I don't know if I am just plain tired or have become really lazy. I think my own medical issues have finally caught up with me, wearing me down, or maybe I am finally growing a spine, don't know. I hope I have convinced my parents I cannot drive them where ever they want [they still live alone in their home]. Grumble all they want, they had a choice to move to a retirement community that has transportation, but they said no. Go to Plan B, if it exists.

My parents can get home delivery of groceries, sorry that delivery isn't free but that is how it is, delivery people aren't going to drive to their house for free. I will still place their order if they want, because I know Dad still is refusing to get off of dial-up and go high speed for the Internet.

As for their mail at the post office box, last time I went there there was one piece of junk mail, sorry not going across town for junk mail, if they want their mail, they can call a taxi or transfer all the mail to the nice mailbox at the end of their driveway.
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Once again, I missed the AD/Support meeting. :/ Even though they told me on Tuesday that it was tomorrow, Wednesday at 4:30 p.m.. It wasn't. It was cancelled due to an emergency and I at that time, WAS NOT on their email list. The guy apologized and said it was a nice large group. So, I just sat in the parking lot and cried for awhile. Maybe next month I'll get to one.

The Glenn Campbell song had me in tears as well. Such a sad, yet awesome song. Thanks again for sharing and yes, it does put our situation in a better perspective, but... doesn't make it less difficult.

1butterfly, it would be wise to fill that script.. that alone will help ease some of the anxiety and even you out again. That and it sounds like you need a nice long break!
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I must say I envy those of you with a scrip for Xanax. I live in East Tennessee and, having no insurance, I am reduced to having to go thru Cherokee Health Systems. They know my situation but will not prescribe Xanax or anything like that. They did call in a scrip for my depression...generic Zoloft (can't remember the name) but I didn't fill it. Afraid of side effects & bad experiences with anti-depressants in the past. I need SOMETHING! Developed insomnia, nerves are shot from caretaking both aunt & uncle with AZ, dementia or whatever. Driving me crazy...now high blood pressure at times. Their children are useless & no help whatsoever.
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Thanks Veronica....actually it is the nurse who is popping in for her convenience..the bathing aid is great at coming about the same time on MWF...today I was taken aback when the nurse told me once she saw we were on her way home she decided she would save our visit for the last one of the day...I was so surprised by that I just stood there looking goofy I'm sure. Also the ex mother in law was there talking the whole time and about a totally different topic so I was trying to hear two different conversations at the same time. I am always amazed at how grown adults conduct themselves...and I agree with Captain as well that they are guests in our home. As today's nurse is a fill in for our regualr one, I will know from now on that we are her last one and so will just do my thing the rest of the day. Since I'm used to her coming right after the bathing aid it aggravated me a lot today because it ruined my schedule...that won't happen again. I can't wait to get my meds...I definitely think they will help smooth out my moods..just hoping they will prescribe the ones my former doctor had me on..those are the only ones that worked for me...ever..
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i got tired of our second hospice nurse dropping in without calling first . i finally asked her to call ahead even if it was only by a few minutes . in hindsight the nurses were both flaky . one talked to mom like she was a child and both made snap judgements about me . i was taking care of ordering , obtaining and dispensing meds , cooking good meals and propping mom up thru her BP mood fluctuations . things got better when i learned to make them answer to mom and i instead of us answering to them .. thats the most important thing i learned from it . they are guests in your home and need to act accordingly . i never questioned their medical performance , only their mannerism .
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