My son (31) whom has no relationship with me or his Dad for his own reasons.
Which are now to the point of point to a disorder of something, he has written me and stated he would like to meet. So I said, ok, anytime, you and me alone, and he writes back, I am afraid to be with you alone? really people, he has had a baby, I have talked to his brother, and his brother said when he went to Jordon three years ago, they brainwashed him. Afraid, I am the softest person in the world. He is afraid of not hearing what he wants to hear, which is I was a horrible mom. No I was and am not a horrible mom, I am a caregiver as all of you know and now care for including in the housecleaning 7 children (not all together) they very much like me and give me hugs, it is truly a loving statement. So, all of you that told me to get rid of my son, this is what he said, so, I would like to have your entire family there excluding your parents (elderly), and I say no, why? because these are the two sisters that mailed back my stocking two years ago because "there was not enough room for my husband and I" we all know that is bull, and I believe I have the answer. My husband and I have hated the fact that each year for 20 years we have felt (our fault) forced to go on a vacation with the entire flipping family, we could not stand it, as it was very dysfunctional. So. my son is doing this obviously because my sisters, have not talked to me in years, and what the heck, it is his security blanket. I said, no, this is between your mother and you and if you are using my grandchild as a pawn shame on you. I did say shame on you I said "It would be sad to use my grandchild as a pawn". What Daniel, you were raised in a middle class home, you were attended to, you were given every academic issue needed and I do not understand, and course, why the entire family and your cousins. If this is about telling the family all that is wrong with your mom, allow me to state the 50 things that I did really good, then I named them. I know most of you will say I am wasting my time, but this is the last email. I said stop debating me, you have not answered one question that I have asked you in the month of December and January, please be an adult, and I am not putting you down, but why is it that we adults have to walk on eggshells so we do not hurt your feelings.
You know better than that.