My mother has imaginary friends.

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my grandmother does to sometimes just go with what ever she is say play along with her. just last week she saw little children play I asked her if they were bother her she said no just let them play I said if they bother you let me know and I will send them out to play the Nurse was here, thought I was crazy but that is ok. When they are like this they are just like a kid who has an imaginary friend.
yup, i agree with darleen096, my mom acted just like a kid, and her best friend was the president.. he came for dinner every sunday. but she would always think he was. she couldnt tell you the mans name, but she knew him.. i just played along, thats what you do, right? it makes them fell better.
its either that, or as they get closer to dying, i think maybe they are talking to people on the other side? maybe..
i think darleens right though.
I dont' know about the dying thing getting closer.
Is your mother taking any meds? My mother started having a very active---and mostly pleasant, to hear her tell it---hallucinatory life when she was prescribed Neurontin for nerve pain from a shingles infection and Celexa for mild depression. She becomes completely convinced, for example, that people are in her room when they're not, and that stuff is floating up to the ceiling of her room and just hanging out there.
She had imaginary friends living under her bed before doctor prescribed meds. Now just Rx'd a mild drug but friends still there and sadly she does not feel safe in her home.
Except my mother wants me to get others involved to "rid" her home and neighborhood of "friends". They bother her although she has never actually seen them in her home, she hears them and knows they are there. I've never had children so very difficult for me. I know to agree but it's when she wants to take it to the "next level" and get others involved, is hard for me to just "go along with it".
When my father entered hospice after a long illness, he was lucid and had most of his cognitive abilities. He also saw and had conversations with his father and would tell me that my grandfather was there. He had a few other instances where he seemed to talk to other people. These incidents seemed to occur when his oxygen stats were low or when he was very tired. My main concerns were his comfort level and dignity. I hope you can talk to a nurse or doctor for more information. I have found that nurses often see more incidents involving their patients than doctors and can be more understanding. God bless you and please do not feel alone in this. RLP
My mom sometimes asks who's going to take care of the "little girl who lives with us" whenever we go out. I just tell her she'll be fine, that the dog (yes, we actually HAVE a dog!) will be here to protect her. It's funny.....I know other caregivers whose parents also claim to see a small female child. Who the heck is this kid??!!
RLP - Good points about oxygen and energy level. I'll have to pay attention to those. She lives alone now but probably not for much longer. I am trying to get her to try senior day care program, at least while I try out a caregiver support group.
jbozman - yes, have tried to encourage a cat (although she's a dog person) as they require no walking. thank you and it is very comforting to know "we're all in this together".
My 82 year old mother "hears" illegal aliens outside her house in the evening.. Funny 'cause she can't even hear us talking across the room. After 4 unwarranted calls to 9-1-1 to "catch them," we installed a motion activated security light outside. That worked for a couple weeks, now she's claiming to hear them again -- this time as they lay down their sleeping bags. She is otherwise reasonable, draws logical conclusions, takes care of herself, pays the bills, etc. But she gets defensive if we challenge her on their existence.

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