I don't ask much but need to keep her as active as possible. I'm 54 she is 81. I've given up any possible life for her and she goes against any request I ask. If I ask her to make sure she goes to the bathroom 2 times a day she rebels an doesn't go for days. Guess who cleans it up. We don't have any kind of in home except once a week self pay for baths. If I ask her not to feed the dog her expensive shrimp she asks for every night, she disregards. However when I say I think it's time to look at other options she starts crying. I'm mad and hurt and damn confused. It has been 4 years now that she has lived with me. My health is suffering and I've been self medicating with ancho to numb my pain. I take great care of her but not me.