Her attitude can be mean at times inconsiderate all towards me she argues she can be mean I'm blamed for things she did but don't remember her family helps but seldom do they experience what i go thru i make sure she has everything to make her life easier from adding handles battery operated wheelchair walker anything i take her to her appt. buy food i clean up when she can't make it to the bathroom 1 and 2 she complains about everything i do i feel like just getting out of this and move on its taking a toll on me the thoughts go away i hate when she gets mean I'm treated like sh#t anybody else going thru this or its just my luck. i fully understand that this took a big part of her life
My experience with people who have strokes and turn mean is that they lash out at whomever will take it. And that is frequently their closest loved ones. But you need to either push the relationship back to healthy levels, or consider just how much you are willing to tolerate.
Counseling, training on how to live with her disabilities, therapy, all is available. And you need it too. Caregiver needs are often overlooked. Burnout, resentment, unappreciative loved one, all starts taking its toll.
Some strokes can affect a person's cognitive ability, so her brain may not be working right, which could explain her change in personality. Have you talked with her doctor about how the stroke has affected her? Has she gone through rehab? How much disability does she now have? Please tell us a bit more about your whole situation.
Her personality changes could also be from her anger and depression after the stroke, or they could be coming from a change in her mental capacity. You need to get some clarity about what's going on and the chance for her to improve. If she can't improve because of her brain changes, then you need to decide whether you want to or can stay in the situation. But you need more information.
Will she get counseling, if her behavior is coming from depression? If she won't then you may have to decide whether you can handle that or not.