My dad died last week.
He was in an Alzheimer's care facility since February 2016, and on hospice. Last October, Dad got pneumonia but survived another 6+ months. Mom (also with memory issues) and I had his graveside burial service yesterday, with military honors (WWII vet). Dad declined over the past roughly 3 years in a manner I would call "stairstep," i.e., he would get worse, plateau for a few months, then go down another notch, stay there for awhile, etc. When Mom needed to be placed, I had to move Dad to conserve funds to pay for two. I moved Dad to a different facility; he was gone in 33 days. Every time I saw him he was worse. I know I had to move him, in order to take care of Mom as well, but I still feel guilty about the move to the other facility. He was 89 years old.