My aunt is hiding my Mom, I don't know if she has POA. Police will not help.

Memphis, thanks for the clarifications.

I do think your persepctive differs from that of many people, including me. If my bank account was one of the ones that you hacked, and you stole from me, I certainly wouldn't agree that you "are not a bad person."

In response to garden artist, I went to prison for fraud and related activities in connection with computers. I was basically hacking into bank accounts. This happened in 2003 when I was around 21 years old. The same year they came and took the computer. I then got a good job at a casino and stayed working there until out of nowhere the fed came and arrested me on January 2008 (hence I said 2007). They explained it took them that long to track all the transactions. Anyone who knows the Feds will know this is normal for them, also 6 years is a very, very short sentence for the Feds, I have seen countless people in the Feds for 15 to 20 years for a few grams or even residue of drugs - this can be researched, I'm telling the truth, as unbelievable as it may sound. Plus Feds have no such thing as parole or early release.

Update. The officer I spoke to in the beginning just called me and said he's been on vacation, and wanted some more information. He said something about this isn't right, and he thought about it the whole week he was out, and he will be doing everything he can to find her now that he is back. He knows my past, and that I am not a bad person, he feels that something is wrong with my aunt. So at least some good news. Thank you again to everyone.

Just to recap...I know some posters respond without reading the entire thread, so this may help put things in perspective.

I assumed Memphis was female but his post of 18 hours ago makes it clear that he’s the son, not the daughter.

Memphis queries in his original post:

“How can I find out if my aunt has POA, and if so how to challenge it.” It seems clear to me that his goals are twofold: find his mother, then challenge any POA that's been granted.

Memphis wrote in his post 17 hours ago that he’s still collecting bills from before his father died in September. He later wrote that the bills were for “euipment, a breathing machine and an electric wheelchair.” If these bills are for his mother, it seems as though she was still in the home recently.

The police knew Memphis’ mother was in a hospital but refused to give out further information. It would appear as though they may have had more knowledge of the situation.

Memphis just found bills for medicine from May of this year, so presumably his mother was living in the home at that time, or that she had left and no address change was submitted.

Memphis found cracked eggs on the stove in his mother’s house. Did his mother leave in a hurry? Seems so.

Memphis admitted he was in federal prison from 2007 forward.

If Tennessee has a victim notification program, and if Memphis' aunt and mother signed up, they would have received notification of his release.

In Michigan, this program provides notice sometimes the day before, sometimes the same day. Not much notice, and not much time to clean out a refrigerator if someone wanted to avoid the person being released.

Read PamStegman’s insightful post of 15 hours ago, comment no. 21.

Are Pam, FreqFlyer and me the only ones who see that the aunt may have removed Memphis mother for her own protection?

I'm not insulting anyone who's trying to be helpful to Memphis but there's obviously a lot going on in this situation and it seems as though law enforcement knew not to provide any information on how Memphis can locate his aunt and his mother. That's revealing.

We don't know the crime for which Memphis was imprisoned, but it appears to have been a 2007 - 2014 sentence. We don't know if it was a crime against people or property, or if it was a crime against a family member.

We do know Memphis is determined, and apparently wants to challenge any POA his aunt may have.

Does someone who's just been released from prison, with a criminal record and no job, have a prayer of a hope to legally challenge (w/o any money) any POA and take care of his mother, and would her sister want this?

It's not my intention to insult Memphis but it appears as though the aunt doesn't want him involved, and she obviously has known her sister longer than Memphis. And apparently she was able to step in and provide care for her sister when needed. Is it really appropriate for Memphis to be pursuing his relatives when they've taken precautions to avoid being found?

You can beat up on me all you want, but I still say there's more to this relationship than Memphis has revealed, and the family doesn't want him involved.

There are always two sides to every story.... too bad we can't hear the Aunt's side so we can process this all and give better advice.

I know this sounds extreme, but have you considered "have you seen me" posters, hopefully with a photo? It's a long shot, I'm sure, but if anyone in town has seen her around, I guess it's worth a shot.

As for Humana, they probably won't tell you anything but you could call them just to feel you tried. But if Humana is her health insurance, are there explanation of service notes in there? The reason I ask is that both mine and my mom's insurance providers tell who is providing service and when. If the explanation of service shows that someone goes to specific places, I wonder if you can figure out how to track her down?

If my mother went missing and she showed up for a visit at her clinic, her clinic does have social workers and, I'm not sure about this, but if I told my story, the social workers might get involved to get things worked-out.

Actually, I did not read all the posts. I see that you called the police and the hospitals and such, but did you see if APS (Adult Protective Services) or any social work office can help? I'm not saying that they can, just giving you a couple more things to try.

I would like to extend a thank you to everyone for all of the help and suggestions. I just got back from dept of human services now, and waiting for them to call me back. However I just checked the mailbox, and she had bills from Humana for medicine dating to May of this year. Could this mean that she is not in a nursing home but in someone's home? If I call Humana what should I tell them if they don't want to tell me anything? Thank everyone again so much.

I would shake every tree, turn over every rock and knock on every door. Contact your state elder abuse hotline, the states attorney in your county, the state attorney general, the county health dept, (senior services) and go to every nursing home in the area. Call your aunt's bluff. Ask her to produce POA papers or you will call the police on her. Ask her neighbors. Attach yourself to her like a tick on a dog. You can do this. Find you mom.

That comment was to Donovan...Memphis, you are brave and honest to own up to what really happened, and I will hope and pray with you that Mom is getting good care somewhere, and that you can be reassured of that. And, that your family can see you as a daughter and not just an ex-convict that brought your mother grief, who could only bring her more grief. I can't imagine anything more comforting to your mother than to be able to know that her daughter was out of prison and on her way to a better life.

If you have witnessed abuse you can call Adult Protective Services.

I guess I'm going to be the one to make what I'm sure is an unpleasant suggestion, and it's that perhaps your mother doesn't feel comfortable seeing you.

There's a reason why your mother left the home in such a hurry that food was left in the fridge and eggs on the table. Perhaps her sister was monitoring your status and learned of your release.

I agree with others - you're going to have to go straight, get a job, and prove yourself. If you were in prison from 2007 until this year, or even last year, that's a pretty significant sentence, either for a serious first offense or a repeat offense, or perhaps a capital offense. If either of the latter 2 options (and/or if the crime was against a person and not property), the family would understandably be leary of your presence in the family unit.

You've written that your mother is dying; how do you know? I still ask how you know that your aunt took your mother?

You might alternately suggest that you meet with your mother on neutral grounds, in a public place, so that either your aunt or your uncle can accompany her. That may give them some confidence that you and your mother won't be alone.

Have you contacted Adult Protective Services in Memphis to see if they have any assistance or sources that might help? As difficult as it is, getting your life in order would be the best thing possible to have contact with your Mom again.

There is no quick solution to this, just steady day after day research. If you have a picture of your Mother, post it on Facebook and contact the local media.

You have a place to stay, if the house is livable and now you must find a job and show you are serious about becoming a productive citizen. Best wishes in finding your Mom; I cannot fathom how stressful this must be for you.

Did your Dad have a Will? If it was probated that is public info. Contact your local legal aid society for assistance. They will at least be able to tell you if there is anything you can do at this point. If your Mom receives Social Security or any kind of pension benefits, etc.; they have to be going somewhere.

I doubt if you have any legal recourse. Try throwing yourself on the mercy of the family and make clean living for yourself. Maybe they will let you back in the family. Get some counseling to deal with it.

Understood, thank you. I've never used drugs a day in my life so I don't know about na or aa, but I'd be willing to try anything. And from federal prison I pay for the call, we have unicor which pays us 100 dollars a month, I never made them pay anything. I do appreciate all the advice, but my mom doesn't have much time left, she is sick and in early stages if dimenica. Legally what can I do. I don't see how she can do this, I am next of kin, not her. I posted in this section because I need to know what legal av I can take, I have no money for an attorney I just want to see my mother before she either dies or doesn't recognize me. Please

To the Original Poster here, ok you do not have a bad history with your mom. But you do have some type of bad history that would probably be off putting to relatives. I know someone sentenced to a number of years in a federal prison. I can't imagine getting a daily collect call from a child in prison. That seems weird. You've been calling her daily almost seven years from prison until she disappears? I can somewhat understand why the family wants distance between the two of you. Can you write to your mom c/o the cousin's husband? Also a letter to the family, just to let them know that you love mom and are concerned about her. Also it might be a good idea to explain how you are now proceeding to put your life together, post prison, on your own. I would imagine that they are concerned that mom might try to meet your needs to her detriment.

Memphis, you were gone a long time, and the family is afraid of you. All they remember is what you were like when you went away. You paid your time, but nobody is hanging yellow ribbons round the old oak tree. It's going to take a while to make them believe you have straightened up. Get a job, find a place to live, and find an AA or NA group that will help you sort out the way the family feels and how to deal with it. AA really helped my brother-in-law change his lifestyle and kept him from going back to jail. Get an AA sponsor who will be your lifeline when things look really bad. It can work for you too.

Donovan... if you can post here you can email the police... What is this?

My sister has been living with my mother for over 26 year. She has refused to seek employment. I went to help care for mu mother after a fall she had. I have now been back in the family home for almost 9 months. I overheard her tell someone that she was going to get me out of the house because my mother won't die. I left the house to go to the store and when I returned she told me she found a blank check in my coat pocket. It was then that I put 2 and 2 together. The police had to be called because my sister took it upon herself to throw my belongings in the street. She then attacked me when I attempted to check on my mother. I am 64 years and walk with a crutch. She is 50 years old. On my than one occasion I have witnessed her strike my mother and which time I protected my mother. She has now removed all the keys from the doors of the house making it impossible to get out.. She forgot the internet is still on. She has removed all the phones so I can not call the police. What can I do?

I was worried no one would help me, so I left out that I was in Oklahoma because I was in federal prison. I've been there since 2007. My mom loved me so much, I called every single day and all she ever said was I want my baby back. I just got here because I had no choice. When my dad died the only family I could call was my aunt, and she said your mom is fine but I'm not going to tell you where she is, and she's never spoken to me since. Jump to now, police said my mom called them a week after my dad died, and said please help me I can't be left alone, police said they then took her to hospital X, and they don't know where she went from there. But they can't accept a missing persons because she isn't really missing, she's just missing to me, she is in a nursing home. I aked how do you know, they said we just assume, but she's not "missing"

Yes its all very strange?

Something just doesn't seem right here.

WHY won't the police accept a missing person's report? Your mother has vanished from her house apparently w/o a trace - that's a missing person. Try the state police as well.

Cracked eggs on the stove? This sounds more like an abduction. Your mother was living at home, right? Were she and your aunt on good terms? Was there any reason why your mother would willingly go with your aunt without telling you? I'm assuming your mother hasn't contacted you at all?

I don't know what court would have jurisdiction over a missing person until law enforcement have proof that someone did in fact take her against her will.

How do you do know that your aunt took your mother?

Are you sure the police aren't telling you because your mother doesn't want you to know? If they knew that she was in a specific hospital, they obviously had some information on her. It just doesn't make sense to me that they wouldn't share that with you.

What about your uncle? Is he living with your aunt and have you gone to wherever that is?

When was the last time you had any contact with your mother?

I just keep thinking there's a lot more to this situation than meets the eye.

My cousins husband (not my uncle) said this is because my mom needs constant care and they are scared I'll take her out of care and let her go back home. Either way, the question now is simply how do I find her, she is sick, I already lost my dad, could I please get some help before I loose my mom too, please

I'm going to guess that you have run off in the past. You didn't come home last September, your mother was hurt and felt abandoned. The family will keep you separated to keep it from happening again. They came when she need help and you stayed in OK. They wrote you off. It will take a long time to prove to them that you are not going to upset her again.

We have no bad history at all. The mortgage hasn't been payed since September last year, I have already contacted them. The house is worth 95k, and only 28k is owed, but my aunt hasn't tryed at all to move in on it. My mom had no money in her bank, so ruling money out, this makes no sence. I called to company about the equipment and it was my moms, and they are going to call me this week to pick it up, and asked me to call them back once they have, so I could ask them about the doctors name then, thank you.

Would those equipment companies tell you what doctor prescribed those items, assuming they are for your mom, not dad? Is there a mortgage or property tax that is getting paid? Find out who or how those payments are being made. If your uncle knows where mom is why won't he tell you? Do you have any bad history towards others or your mom which makes others think she needs protection from you? What's the rest of this story?

Sorry, and the bills were for companies asking for the return of equipment, a breathing machine and an electric wheel chair, not from her doctors.

This is awful surely the police can help? If your mum was ill maybe check out all the NHs and hospitals i know this is alot of work but if she has had strokes she may be in a home?
Also like another post asked is your aunt suffering from any mental illlness? this is a very very tough situation isnt there anyone from her family who may know what happened?
Your aunt must have told some lies about you if they wont give you info. I would try everything maybe radio OR churches?

I don't know her doctors because I lived in Oklahoma, I dropped everything to move back here to find her. I my aunt has a daughter who won't speak to me at all either, but her husband will, however, the only thing that he will tell me is that this is not right, but she is being cared for, and my aunt just don't want me trying to get her out of wherever she is. Please, I know it seems strange because it is very strange, but I love my mom to death and I don't know where to turn.

I have no idea why my aunt is doing this. I haven't spoken to her in years but we used to always spend time together, but my dad used to tell me, son your moms side of the family is cold, never trust them , so I don't know. Yes my aunt is in Memphis but my mom lived in desoto county mississippi which touches Memphis Tennessee.

Why did your aunt take your mum? how come you do not know your mums doctor? all seems strange?

Tell us more. If you're getting mom's medical bills, her doc's names should be listed on them. Were your mom and sister close? Any other aunts/uncles/cousins you could contact? This just doesn't make sense based on what you've said so far.