Moving my Mom from IL to WI to live with me was a mistake!
My Mom ( age 88) lived in a very nice retirement home in IL where she had lived her whole life. My father died nine years ago and she reconnected with a college boyfriend and she lived with him for a year in CA before he died from dementia. She was so lonely and both she, my husband and I thought she would be happier up here by us and all 7 of her great grandchildren. I now realize that this was the worst decision of my life. She has two rooms in our house and a bathroom and has been told that the rest of the house is hers as well. Other than coming out of her rooms for breakfast (she keeps all of her food in her room), her weekly hair appt and when we take her with us to restaurants or Dr appts we hardly see her. She has nasty comments to make if I do anything that doesn't include her. I am 60 and I think she was hoping that I would just sit in her room with her all day, every day as if I was 88 too. She is really a passive aggressive person and I feel like a prisoner in my own home. I would just move her back to IL (where my brother lives) but most of her furniture was sold. She is also on Facebook and on her depressed days makes sure she puts depressing comments on fb. I'm sure that her friends and relatives think that we are abusing her. I have just found out that she is a miserable depressed person and probably always has been. My father was a saint to have lived with her for 50 years. I'm tired of hearing about all of the things she didn't get to do in her life, what a disappointment my father was, how she wished that she had married her college boyfriend instead, etc, etc, etc. I want her gone!! I need suggestions of what to do. Should I just give up possibly the next 10 years of our lives, move her back (money isn't an object for her) or what? I really need advice.