I moved in with my mother about 3 years ago when divorcing after a 34 year marriage. She has some dimentia and very poor hearing. She has always been a difficult mom as she is nagative. Never one to hand out compliments for anything. She still handles her banking , but very badly. She's forgotten how to cook at times. The problem is that she won't listen to me even when I'm very calm with her. She always disagrees and does as she wants. That happened today and I just exploded with anger. I think I should do more but she won't let me. Or when I do something really well it's never enough. I thought today after exploding that I might have a nervous breakdown. I don't have help. I have one sibling who doesn't live here. I cried and slept the rest of the day. The incident happened first thing in the morning. I was screaming and couldn't stop. I need help and advice. I yelled that I was going to a lawyer to have her declared incompetent. I don't want to do that, but she will not let me handle much. Not until she has made such a mess she must ask for help. I feel worthless because I don't spend enough time with her. I set up my own space in the basement; I'm starting to cry as I write this. It seems like people think I have it made because I no longer work outside my home. I always worked but don't feel like I can leave her for extended amounts of time. She once slapped me in the face when I was sick with the flu. I told her to get out of my room because she was blaming me for being sick. I feel at the end of my rope. I wish one of us would die.