Mother's Getting out of Rehab and Refusing Home Care.
My mother is 86, has an artificial heart valve and on coumadin, and has metastatic colon cancer currently being treated with oral chemo. She fell a few weeks ago at home, and ended up in hospital and now in chemo. Is told she needs to go home with help, or to assisted living, and is refusing - says she wants to live her life and doesn't have the money (she would have to spend down what's left, but she could if she wants to). She thinks she is very sharp and shows good judgement but is very difficult and has does not show good judgment at all. I've told her I will not take her home to be without help - she says I am "controlling". She doesn't want to spend the money, and thinks she is going to drive (she's on Percocet for pain) and do whatever she wants. I'm out of things to say to her without total frustration. She is being released Tuesday and so far there's no plan, because she has refused home health care or assisted living. I'm out of ideas and very angry. No reasoning with her at all.