Happy Mother's Day.
I have had a crazy week. the caregiver that was working 3 hours for 3 days a week has been on a leave of some sort. during this time her replacement has had a very tough time living up to the expectations that my Mom has in her head. She is very kind and caring and adores my Mom. She keeps her safe, gives med reminders and socializes,and gets her lunch. Well done..but wait, enter the care giver from leave. She is not back on the roster and takes it upon herself to come to our home while I am at work and prey on my Mom's emotions. She dials the agency on the phone and has my Mom beg and plead for them to give her my Mom back as her client. She left and called her again and had Mom write things down to say. Considering that my Mom is the client how much more unethical can you get. This girl then called a few more times to see if Mom had followed through with this. This is all being relayed to me while I am at work via text and phone calls from a sibling that did not seem to think there was alot wrong with this because "mom really likes her" Isn't that why we try to protect her from people like this? But yet at the end of the day I am the bad guy for following ethical codes and therapuetic boundaries that appeared to be more than blurred. This happenned at the beginning of the week and I continue to be reminded of how awful this is and why did i view this as wrong? My Mother was a special ed. teacher for at least 30 years.I work in the mental health field and obviously could not stand aside. I have explained from every angle trying to helpher understand. Iknow this is futile due to the dementia carousel. I even tried to use the viewpoint of the new caregiver and let her know how unfair this was to her coworkers as well as Mom and me. I have copied the note that was left for me, I have not recieved the other one back from my sister to copy. This whole chain of events was so completely ridiculous. At the end of the week on Mother's Day I still am being snubbed by her and it is hard to remain objective 24/7. That is, as always, only part of the story but I don't have time right now but would love some feedback. Thank's for listening maree26